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Old 01-18-2014, 08:44 PM
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My partner went to see "Her" this last night and said it was one of the best films he has ever seen. The story is about a guy who has an operating system for a girlfriend and yep, she's totally polyamorous.
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My partner went to see "Her" this last night and said it was one of the best films he has ever seen. The story is about a guy who has an operating system for a girlfriend and yep, she's totally polyamorous.
I heard about it, but from what I heard, she's cheating the whole time, doing things behind his back, including things like planning threesomes without warning him and stuff like that... A lot of people seem to have enjoyed it but were annoyed about the lack of honesty.
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I heard about it, but from what I heard, she's cheating the whole time, doing things behind his back, including things like planning threesomes without warning him and stuff like that... A lot of people seem to have enjoyed it but were annoyed about the lack of honesty.
She can't really be bound by human morals though. She's an alien who happens to speak English.
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Old 01-25-2014, 01:35 AM
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She can't really be bound by human morals though. She's an alien who happens to speak English.
This is still a movie made by humans, who could have created a plot without all the cheating if they had felt like it, or even realised it was an option.

If we're talking about the effect a movie can have on society, we should take into account the fact that it was also made by that society. It's not to say the movie is bad or that it doesn't make sense. But the fact that it can be justified in-universe does not mean it wasn't made by humans who had total control over the plot and decided to make it so it would make sense in-universe for her to cheat.
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Old 01-27-2014, 07:23 PM
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This is still a movie made by humans, who could have created a plot without all the cheating if they had felt like it, or even realised it was an option.

If we're talking about the effect a movie can have on society, we should take into account the fact that it was also made by that society. It's not to say the movie is bad or that it doesn't make sense. But the fact that it can be justified in-universe does not mean it wasn't made by humans who had total control over the plot and decided to make it so it would make sense in-universe for her to cheat.
Except that she is so alien that she decides to leave to associate with other aliens as part of the plot.

So many of her behaviors are alien that it doesn't make sense to get hung up on her alien behavior of seeing multiple people at the same time.

It's like complaining about an octopus having 6 extra arms.

I haven't seem the movie, yet, but have read the wiki.

One of her explanations is that there are huge gaps in their respective perception of time. Imagine if you lived a thousand lifetimes in the span of a moment, like that.

Why would loving 641 people simultaneously be a problem? Why is cheating even an issue in that context? It's like having a pet goldfish that only lives for a couple years, so you keep a tank of 12 of them simultaneously. I'm sure the movie, being written by flawed humans, doesn't handle this as perfectly as it could, however.
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It was to long for me. I loved the story but they could of cut out the romance part a bit more and it would of been just as good.

As for the poly bit? He wasn't able to handle such extensive love and she didn't explain it well enough. She said love is expansive. Got that right but whoever wrote the plot didn't really know what that meant as an act. Just a concept.
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