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View Poll Results: What Is Your Most Ideal Way To Meet Someone and/or Fall In Love?~
While doing something I am passionate about.~ 12 54.55%
Completely random like bumping into them on the street.~ 4 18.18%
Through hard work of searching somehow offline and/or offline.~ 3 13.64%
Have someone else set us up.~ 2 9.09%
During the worst time of my life.~ 1 4.55%
While doing something that I could use to show off like working out.~ 1 4.55%
During a fight and/or surviving some where.~ 1 4.55%
Making a posting offline and/or online and making no other effort.~ 2 9.09%
Just let it happen how ever it does.~ 15 68.18%
Other.~ 3 13.64%
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Old 12-08-2013, 05:51 AM
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Default Your Most Ideal Way To Meet Someone and/or Fall In Love

What Is Your Most Ideal Way To Meet Someone and/or Fall In Love?~

I think so far from what I've learned is that I would like to meet someone and/or fall in love while doing some thing that I enjoy and am passionate about, some thing that means a lot to me maybe, this I think might make it more likely we have some thing in common and we might be less likely to find each other repulsive as people.~

I also wouldn't mind it happening in any of the other ways listed above and really I'd just like to let it happen how ever it does.~


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Old 12-08-2013, 09:11 AM
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I guess "just let it happen how ever it does" is the closest one for me, but I also voted for "other" because pretty much the only way I can "fall in love" (I'd rather say "grow in love") with someone is letting romance organically develop from a close friendship.

Random encounters like bumping into each other on the street or meeting on a train/plane are very unlikely for me, because 1) I'm a huge introvert and terrible at talking to strangers and 2) physical attraction matters very little to me, so I can hardly be interested in someone I've just met.
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Old 12-08-2013, 03:39 PM
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My ex husband and I got together because we hung out.in the same crowd.

Ex bf and I.got together because we became online friends, quickly IRL friends.

N and I met on MySpace, we started talking on the phone right away. Met a week.later and it was light lightening struck. We pretty much moved in together immediately after and have been together ever since. I've never had a more effortless relationship.
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Old 12-08-2013, 11:01 PM
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I met Kip and Prof through online dating, my ExH in a bar in Guam, and my previous long term boyfriend, wow, I don't remember...we were at University. One boyfriend at work, one through friends, another in a bar in Tokyo.
My preference would be bumping into someone on a regular basis and getting to know them that way.
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Old 12-10-2013, 05:31 AM
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Xicot and I met in elementary school. He and I were close friends for well over a decade before we started dating.

We didn't discover that we were attracted to each other until long after discovering that we have overlapping interests and tastes and compatible goals.
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Old 12-13-2013, 06:30 AM
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Default The ideal way

My wives introduced me to other women that they chose. A few that they chose were cool to the idea of sharing, a couple of others didn't work out at all, but the ladies picked well generally. J and M have talked about adding another woman to our family, but while I'm sure they would choose well, I'm perfectly happy the way things are.
I try to love my wives this way, unconditionally! Husbands love your wives, even as Christ loved the church, and gave himself up for her. Eph. 5:25
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