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Old 02-10-2011, 10:01 AM
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Default "Stop me if you've heard this one" - clichés we've heard from non-polys

Stereotypes, clichés, put-downs, prejudices

Hi!
You are invited to submit the sort of anti-Polyamory comments you've heard or read. You may also submit your own replies to same. I'll start with 2 examples:
"You're just too immature to handle a REAL relationship!"
My heart's just too big to be limited to petty, stingy love.
"If you spread your love too widely, it's never deep anywhere."
If you take a thimbleful, or a litre... or a square kilometre of water from the ocean, is the ocean noticeably shallower?
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Old 02-10-2011, 10:58 AM
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Welcome, welcome welcome! Thanks for the best intro I think I've ever read on this board and then straight into a link to a really good thread! I am thoroughly impressed.

We've been told "you're just not that into each other"

and

"He obviously does make your heart sing and your soul soar"

to which I say "Garbage" (just for Redpepper)
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Old 02-10-2011, 11:11 AM
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"If you truly loved someone, they would be enough and you wouldn't even look at another person."

I call BS...lol
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Old 02-10-2011, 11:38 AM
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"You just haven't met the right person yet who can fulfill all your needs."

My reply is that I don't want someone to fulfill my needs, as only I can do it.

But sometimes I only reply: Yeah, maybe.
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Old 02-10-2011, 06:30 PM
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"If you were really happy with your wife you wouldn't be wanting to go poly." This from a poly person too, go figure...
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Old 02-11-2011, 10:00 AM
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"You need to grow up and realize you're married" - Mr. Panda, about 5 minutes before I decided to stop talking to him.
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Old 02-12-2011, 06:55 AM
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"If you truly loved someone, they would be enough and you wouldn't even look at another person."

I call BS...lol
Even before I started down the road to poly, I'd get this kind of thing for looking...and yeah, I looked...my response was always the same...
"I'm married...NOT dead!"
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Old 02-12-2011, 11:57 AM
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Even before I started down the road to poly, I'd get this kind of thing for looking...and yeah, I looked...my response was always the same...
"I'm married...NOT dead!"
Couple of guys at work were talking about "window shopping" with lots of hastily added "as long as my wife doesn't catch me" and "always look but don't touch". I couldn't help by smile knowingly and shake my head.
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Old 02-14-2011, 10:34 AM
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A friend of mine said to me "oh, but I suppose if you were in a real relationship......"

My reaction was "We've been seeing each other for close to a year, so it is pretty real actually, and yes, his other girlfriend is also real"

I did feel a little sad
It made me feel that the relationships I have aren't recognised as something valuable in the eyes of some of the other people whom I care for, and who care for me.

That bit hurts from time to time...
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Old 04-23-2011, 10:16 PM
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Ohh, I've got a good one...

"If he wants to sleep with someone else, thats what swinger parties are for, or some hot porn..If he wants to be with someone else that bad, he doesn't love you as much as he says and he's keeping you around because he wants someone to wash his clothes, cook his food and then let him go out for a romp and come back"
LOL.

This came from a good friend of mine, who hypocritcally is trying to get her husband to be seduced by another woman so she can leave him for the man she's been having phone and cyber sex with.
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