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Old 11-25-2013, 12:24 PM
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Hi, I'm having 2 parallel relations. We are considering to go in holidays together but the problem is : do we sleep all a part or 2 days and 2 days? Do you go in holidays together? We don't want to sleep all together, is not in our view.. we have to go for 2 weeks. ... Some advise? How do you manage this? We have 2 kids and I would like to avoid they see me changing bed. They are still to young, they would not understand. So, 3 different beds for 2 weeks or ... when the kids sleep ... I change bed? What would you do?
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Old 11-25-2013, 01:04 PM
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How many adults are going and what are their relationships?
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Old 11-26-2013, 11:16 AM
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Depending on where you go on holiday, lots of hotels have family rooms, like two double beds to a room, do each of your partners have children or just one?

I think it might be better if you have a separate room or failing that, rent a villa/house, and have the children in their own bedroom so they won't see you going from one bed to another?
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Old 11-26-2013, 03:21 PM
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If this is really about the kids... think about how old they are, and think about what they might consider normal, if you act normal. This is what dad does? Then this is what dad does. I know of plenty of poly families where it's just normal (Dagferi has it with her husbands, LR has it with hers, and some in my local area have a husband with two wives in a V or a triad, raising kids...).
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Old 11-26-2013, 04:47 PM
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My kids know sometimes I sleep with their father Butch. Sometimes I sleep with Murf. Honestly they never have blinked an eye. My kids are 10 and 6, Murf has been in their life over a year.

I was worried about their reaction but in reality they don't care.
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Old 11-27-2013, 12:16 AM
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My kids know sometimes I sleep with their father Butch. Sometimes I sleep with Murf. Honestly they never have blinked an eye. My kids are 10 and 6, Murf has been in their life over a year.

I was worried about their reaction but in reality they don't care.
Exactly.
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