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Old 11-10-2013, 04:37 AM
Revkah Revkah is offline
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How do you guys split or combine holidays? My bf asked me today about Thanksgiving and I wasn't even sure how to go about it. I would of course love to spend time with him during the holidays. Any advice would be great.
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Old 11-10-2013, 04:41 AM
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There's some threads on here regarding that.

We spend holidays together. Anyone who wants to join is welcome.
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Old 11-10-2013, 05:17 AM
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Dude doesn't have contact with his family so holidays are spent with mine or MrS's. Usually we three will get together with one family on the holiday itself and the other on the holiday weekend.
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Old 11-10-2013, 07:00 AM
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Easy for me, I have a kid. I'll spend a day or two with partners over the Xmas period but the main days are spent with my family. I don't integrate people into my family life easily, at all.
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Old 11-10-2013, 09:18 AM
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Gralson is a slave to his job, works out of town all but 4 days every 2 weeks. So I'm lucky to see him for Thanksgiving at all. Auto usually does things with either her or her husband's parents.

Christmas we do differently each year. Auto always hosts a Solstice celebration for everyone in the extended family. Last year, we made a relationship train of 6 people: Gralson, me, Auto, her husband, his boyfriend, and his wife. My mom was even there, all the way from 1200 km away. This year, Gralson and I are planning to travel to my home town for xmas.

But I like to poach the phrase "first world problems" to describe the issue of "I have too much love in my life, how do I decide who to share it with during holidays?" A popular recommendation for that problem is to volunteer at a homeless shelter / soup kitchen for the holidays, and invite your partners to join you. Hard for anyone to criticize you for choosing the wrong person that way, plus the obvious benefit of helping those less fortunate than yourselves.
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from getting into a box yourself.
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Old 11-10-2013, 11:25 AM
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We do something with Butch. His closest family is 15 hours away in Chicago.

The either the kids and I our just me go with Murf to family events.
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Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
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Old 11-10-2013, 09:44 PM
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J spent Halloween with us. N and I travel out of state for thanksgiving, N and I don't celebrate Xmas. J goes out of town to her parents house for holidays. As far as I'm aware, J's family is Pretty in the dark about her life, shes a fairly secretive person.
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