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Old 11-29-2009, 08:03 PM
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More ignorance blustering forth from my keyboard...

I have a poly friend who told me a few days back that I am "the mythical unicorn that everyone is looking for".

Eh... 0_0 What? What does that mean? *Checks mirror* I promise. I have NO horn growing out of my forehead. Really... Truly... 0_0

LOL. Can someone help me out with the definitions here? Is there any other 'terminology' unique to polyamory that I should be aware of so I don't sound like an idiot by accident? lol
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Old 11-29-2009, 08:12 PM
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A "Unicorn" in this context is when a couple seeks a single, bisexual woman for the purpose of forming a closed triad.

It's what you were to "Becky and Bill".

See Also:

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showp...7&postcount=10

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/searc...searchid=24204

http://tacit.livejournal.com/295369.html
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Old 11-29-2009, 08:48 PM
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Yikes. 0_0 That sounds like it could be bad for the unicorn in almost everycase.

Though I understand the idea... It is certainly appealing to find someone who is unattached and can join your 'family' without bringing in extranious, unwanted persons.
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Yikes. 0_0 That sounds like it could be bad for the unicorn in almost everycase.
Although I have never been in a "unicorn situation", I have been on this forum long enough to be able to say, without reservation, that your point of view is ironically refreshing.
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Old 11-29-2009, 09:19 PM
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Oh dear! LOL

Well, I have been thinking of making a post saying what I am and what I'm seeking...

But suffice it for now to say that I'm a hot bi woman looking for a couple/family that I can have sexual and emotional imtimacy with. So... I guess I am a unicorn. LOL

And Ygirl, why is my point of veiw refreshing? LOL. I think it's simply naive. 0_0
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Old 11-29-2009, 09:38 PM
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And Ygirl, why is my point of veiw refreshing? LOL. I think it's simply naive. 0_0

I guess it's because we see a lot of "unicorn hunters" come on to this forum but you're the first unicorn wanna-be (I don't mean that in a derogatory way). Yet, you also seem realistic in your attitude (according to what you just said to me in the PM).
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Old 11-29-2009, 09:08 PM
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More ignorance blustering forth from my keyboard...

I have a poly friend who told me a few days back that I am "the mythical unicorn that everyone is looking for".

Eh... 0_0 What? What does that mean? *Checks mirror* I promise. I have NO horn growing out of my forehead. Really... Truly... 0_0
Well, if you're a hot bi babe sitting around waiting for a couple to get involved with--and you only want to be involved with a couple and not have any other relationships--then you are, indeed, a unicorn.

If you're not looking to get involved with just a couple, then you're a hot bi babe lacking in all mystical, magical powers.
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Hmmm, I just got chatted by a man on okc, who has a bi gf and they want me! I am trying to feel them out. Asking the questions like, what if i like her more than you? What if I've spent the night, and you leave for work and she and I want to get it on while you're gone? Things like that...

Being with a cis-gendered woman again is on my to-do list. Ive struck out chatting bi and lesbian women on OKC. Maybe this is my chance for that.

We shall see... hope springs eternal. So far, I've only talked to the guy. He seems nice, and gave pretty good answers to my questions.
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Wink Do I qualify as a unicorn hunter?

So reading up about the issues have me a bit on the fence about whether I'm chasing unicorns or not. Here's the gist:

While we're not pursuing anything actively right now because my wife is beginning a new relationship, I am extremely excited at the thought of going on a date with a woman as a couple. I know that a bisexual girl interested in a polyamorous couple is a "unicorn" but I don't think I have quite the stringent requirements of most.

I'd be open to this theoretical woman being more interested in one of us or the other for a relationship though I hope she'd be open to some fun in the bedroom involving both of us. I'm open to both serious and casual relationships for either of us, and don't have any interest in forcing a relationship where none exists. I'm just very thrilled at the idea of being on a date with a woman and seeing her giving eyes to my wife, or to me, or both of us, but enjoying that together.

So give me the honest truth: am I seeking something rare enough to qualify as unicorn hunting or do I perhaps squeeze my way into the general poly population on this one?
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Old 03-23-2011, 10:14 PM
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If you wanted her to only commit to you, then yes that would quality. Unicorn hunting is a small subset of poly for the record. .. not a working requirement haha

Welcome to the world of poly ... and enjoy its a fun ride.
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