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Old 08-23-2010, 04:00 PM
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and I feel so naked !

...I am curious about something regarding the term 'pansexual'. Looking up definitions of it, I see there seems to be a grey area between bisexual and pansexual.

If a self-proclaimed bisexual woman, is attracted to males who cross dress, but not 'transgendered' people, does that render a changing of the label ? Or not ?

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Old 08-23-2010, 04:31 PM
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I think "pansexual" is just something invented by people who don't like the term "bisexual", but it basically means the same fucking thing.
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Old 08-23-2010, 04:42 PM
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For me, I use pansexual because I am attracted to the PERSON not the gender.

I have met some very amazing cool gender-neutral people. One who refers to themselves at "them, their, it"

I find them to be very attractive. But its not a him or a her...

So for me - pan is open and accepting.

Apparently though, according to a quiz I took on OKcupid - I'm bi but slightly more on the gay side

I am a pansexual switch... I'm just greedy
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Old 08-23-2010, 06:24 PM
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I have met some very amazing cool gender-neutral people. One who refers to themselves at "them, their, it"

I find them to be very attractive. But its not a him or a her...
I have never met someone who is gender neutral. I didn't even know there was such a thing...you learn something new every day.
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Old 08-23-2010, 06:27 PM
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I have never met someone who is gender neutral. I didn't even know there was such a thing...you learn something new every day.
You need to come hang out in Fetlife more

Come to the dark side... we haz cookies

Gender neutral, gender fluid.... lots of them over there

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexual
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I have never met someone who is gender neutral. I didn't even know there was such a thing...you learn something new every day.
Your girlfriend is pansexual...so's mine coincidentally
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Old 08-23-2010, 06:47 PM
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Your girlfriend is pansexual...so's mine coincidentally
Yes but she isn't gender neutral. Hehehe so apparently you do like sex with a pan!
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Old 08-23-2010, 07:05 PM
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Alrighty,..I`ll clarify. I tend to stick (sticking pan, I am,.err,..not. :P ) to the bisexual label, if I must pick one. It`s like being dominant.

I joke I am in the 98 percentile, so I might as well just put that instead of switch.

Same for bisexual. Im in the third quartile there. So for now, might as well leave it at that.

I knew the definition of pansexual, I was wondering where the division is with someone like me. I seem to be able to be possibly attracted to males who cross dress, but not transgendered.

Typing this out, I see I now have a answer to that question. I do have a division in my head, so that puts me as bisexual, rather then the 'free' to be attracted to whatever floats my way ' - pansexual.

Okie dokie, I got hung up mixing a fetish with a way of being. All corrected now ! Feel feel to correct if I am wrong.
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I've always been attracted to androgynes. From when I first sexually awoke, I fell in love with the early Beatles... I was 8. They were seen as dangerously girlish back then.

Later, it was David Bowie, the cast of Rocky Horror, Andy Warhol's cast of Superstars, etc etc.

Johnny Depp, Eddie Izzard, Rudolph Valentino, the dancer Vaslav Nijinski, all these girly men made my heart flutter and my nethers twitch.

I was never really attracted to drag queens, but then, they are gay men. There's a bit of a divide there.

I ID as gender fluid on FL, b/c I can be quite femme sometimes, but have strong masculine qualities as well. Speaking from a gender-binary understanding, of course.

I guess you've already answered your own first question, Superjast, that's just how it happened for me.
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Old 08-24-2010, 12:26 AM
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I knew the definition of pansexual, I was wondering where the division is with someone like me. I seem to be able to be possibly attracted to males who cross dress, but not transgendered.
Maybe its even more simple than that. And this idea comes from Dan Savage talking about young or new gay men. Maybe you have a hard time finding the more extremes of a stereotype attractive. Not that you would dislike them, but being attractive to them is different.

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