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Old 01-22-2011, 05:19 AM
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eeeek!

Ok I have a pretty dominating personality when it comes to finding new people for my BF. Out of concern of course, as I have mentioned in my other post.

ButI am gonna skip talking about him for a minute, because I just realized something. I am all good with poly and all, I like I want it, etc.... but I'm talking to an old friend right now who I have been intimate with before and she and her new hubby want me to come visit. "like that".

It just occurred to me how shy I am when it comes to others propositioning me.
Like VERY. Turn bright red, stumble over my words, dont know what to say, kinda shy.

And since I am moving away, and haven't dated on my own in YEARS, This is something I need to get over. I am not even sure how it happened. I USED to have balls of freaking steel! Where did they go? How did this happen?!?!?!?

More importantly, what am I going to do about it?

I am not happy to discover this fact about myself.
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Old 01-22-2011, 06:48 AM
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If you hadn't discovered it, you couldn't address it...

So I'd say you're still ahead of the game, since self-awareness is key to finding a resolution to such things.
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Old 01-22-2011, 07:56 AM
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Those balls of steel: you've prolly still got 'em. They might be a li'l rusty, is all. Find 'em, polish 'em up a little. You'll be fine.
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Old 01-22-2011, 02:14 PM
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Welcome to the club! I've been this way for years now. My wife is the talker/communicator. She is very open and social. I don't know how to introduce myself....But I'm getting better....and as I'm opening up to more and more people, the women aren't so taken aback when I ask them out. Of course, none of them have taken me up on it yet...but I'll keep asking. LOL I had one lady say "I don't think your wife would appreciate that!". I told her "You might be surprised. She's actually fine with it." So she said "Well, I don't do wives.". I smiled and said "I can respect that.". And I left it at that. Now, since this conversation, this woman has been a LOT more talkative with me. Not overly so, but more talkative for sure.

So just be more open.
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Old 01-22-2011, 02:31 PM
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I should have saw this coming. I was talking to someone from here yesterday about how I got all freaked out about guys checking me out at comic con. But I figured, that was mostly the amount of them doing so! That can be a bit daunting. So understandable. But I know this girl! We have already played Acrobats in the Bedroom, so why did I get all nervous? I really caught myself off guard. Glad I did though, before I get moved and out in the middle of my brand new life and end up sitting home with my cats out of fear. LOL.

Thanks for the support! I was just a bit freaked out. Definitely going to have to work on this. haha. (Seriously though! WTH? LMAO!!!!)

Sadly, I am going to have to turn her and new hubby down. They live an hour away and I just don't have the time to go spend with them. Move date is coming up too soon, and I have too much to do. =(
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Old 01-22-2011, 02:35 PM
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Welcome to the club! I've been this way for years now. My wife is the talker/communicator. She is very open and social. I don't know how to introduce myself....But I'm getting better....and as I'm opening up to more and more people, the women aren't so taken aback when I ask them out. Of course, none of them have taken me up on it yet...but I'll keep asking. LOL I had one lady say "I don't think your wife would appreciate that!". I told her "You might be surprised. She's actually fine with it." So she said "Well, I don't do wives.". I smiled and said "I can respect that.". And I left it at that. Now, since this conversation, this woman has been a LOT more talkative with me. Not overly so, but more talkative for sure.

So just be more open.
Its cool you are at least to the point of asking someone out though! I don't think I could do that yet for a while. LOL. I'm a total nerd. I just get rambling on about Battle Star Galactica or something. Its ridiculous.
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Its cool you are at least to the point of asking someone out though! I don't think I could do that yet for a while. LOL. I'm a total nerd. I just get rambling on about Battle Star Galactica or something. Its ridiculous.
There's a BSG exhibit at the Sci-Fi museum in Seattle until March.
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