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Old 09-29-2013, 02:58 AM
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Can anyone share their experiences with bringing an ex back into a poly relationship? Girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses.....?
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Old 09-29-2013, 03:54 AM
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I've never done that. I do remain friends with all of my exes. Which is easier in a poly dynamic because there isn't as much expectation that we *shouldn't* be friends. But-I always was that way, even before poly.
I haven't dated any of them again, because in every case, there was a reason we stopped dating that is still valid.
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Old 09-29-2013, 10:31 PM
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I am with LR, I have never done that. But I also cant remain friends with my ex's. So the likelyhood of this occurring is really small.
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Old 09-29-2013, 11:54 PM
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Nope while I may remain friendly... I do not cross the same bridge twice relationship wise.
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Old 09-30-2013, 12:31 AM
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Interesting. My BF has made the comment that when someone breaks up with him, there's no getting together again, ever. Is this typical of poly?
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Old 09-30-2013, 05:10 AM
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I wouldn't say there is never a chance. If my ex girlfriend re-appeared I would definitely go there.
But-I broke her heart, so she isn't going to. Friends she will allow, but more than that-no way.

The thing is, that there are situations I could see it happening in. But they are rare.

If whatever caused the breakup is resolved, no reason not to try again.
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