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Old 09-21-2013, 03:09 PM
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Just saw my wife raise hell on her boyfriend. She went off on him for a good stretch over bad directions. He earned it to some extent.Nice to know I'm not the only one who has to deal with that. Heh heh.
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Old 09-21-2013, 03:12 PM
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Just saw my wife raise hell on her boyfriend. She went off on him for a good stretch over bad directions. He earned it to some extent.Nice to know I'm not the only one who has to deal with that. Heh heh.
Yuck. Is this a common occurrence?
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Old 09-21-2013, 03:29 PM
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Not really & don't read too much into it. Pretty harmless temper.
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Old 09-21-2013, 03:50 PM
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Ouch, being verbally abused is horrible and st not something I would put up with
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Old 09-21-2013, 04:00 PM
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Guys really thanks. But I've worked in shelters and outreach centers and psych hospitals. I understand the difference between somebody being abusive and somebody blowing off steam because a 3 hour car ride turned into a 4 hour car ride. We've been together 13 years. We're good.
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Old 09-21-2013, 04:08 PM
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Anger is a natural emotion. Some have lots longer fuses then others. Having "fights" is going to happen in any relationship. It's healthy. S and I do not argue often but when we do look out. LOL.
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Old 09-21-2013, 04:43 PM
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Guys really thanks. But I've worked in shelters and outreach centers and psych hospitals. I understand the difference between somebody being abusive and somebody blowing off steam because a 3 hour car ride turned into a 4 hour car ride. We've been together 13 years. We're good.
Thank you TRBG, nice to know that some people realise that not every raised voice is a sign of abuse and psychosis....eugh...too much 'delicate' about nowadays....
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Old 09-21-2013, 03:26 PM
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Just saw my wife raise hell on her boyfriend. She went off on him for a good stretch over bad directions. He earned it to some extent.Nice to know I'm not the only one who has to deal with that. Heh heh.
WOW! Sorry for both of you. I can't see where an inadvertent action like poor directions ever warrants an such angry response. Is she like two?
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Well whatever you are we willing to put up with
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Old 09-21-2013, 05:54 PM
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Thank you TRBG, nice to know that some people realise that not every raised voice is a sign of abuse and psychosis....eugh...too much 'delicate' about nowadays....
[Edit: I re-read Inyourendos post and she did say "abuse". I am guessing that's what you were talking about]

I didn't suggest that there was any abuse or psychosis. I just don't put up with someone taking their day out on me. Every once in a long while, when life is just being a real shit, people get grumpy and aren't responsible with taking care of that - and subsequently ends up being taken out on someone else. I've done it, and other people have done it to me. While I don't consider it a stoning offense I do consider it a problem which needs to be handled more appropriately.

That is why I asked if this was a common occurrence. Judging by... "Nice to know I'm not the only one who has to deal with that." it sounds like it might not be rare.

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Having "fights" is going to happen in any relationship. It's healthy.
Fighting is healthy? I would need to hear quite a bit more reasoning to back up that assertion.

I would agree with Natja, that it isn't necessarily a sign that there is something fundamentally wrong with the association... but anything past the very rare disagreement or accidental hurt feeling would need to be put under a microscope.
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