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Old 01-18-2011, 05:26 AM
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My partner and i are discussing having a Poly family. Discussing logistics, etc we have been using Polygomay terms and i am not thrilled with those terms.
It would be me, my man. and another woman. Some people use "sister wives", what else do You use? We discussed i would be the Alpha of two women. Is there another term for this?
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Old 01-18-2011, 05:54 AM
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I suggest you do some reading here and find out what the terms are that are used first. Then you can create your own. It is very difficult to talk to other poly people if you are using a different language however so some tolerance might be in order if you are hoping to be a part of a larger community.

For instance, "sister wives" is a polygamy term, not a poly term. In poly we have "metamours." This term is used for both males and females who are the other partner of our partner. Also, the term "primary" is given for the partner of someone who is of most importance, rather than "Alpha."

I can appreciate that you don't like the terms. Some don't some do... but they are known and understood... there is a whole section on definitions and terms in the stickies, or you could do a tag search for "primary," "secondary," "metamours," "hierarchy," "prescriptive," "descriptive," anything that takes an interest. Oh, "unicorn" is another as that seems to be what you are looking for.
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Old 01-18-2011, 06:08 AM
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Thanks Redpepper. I am sorry if it came across as judgemental. NEVER meant that. I know it is not polygamy and thats why i wanted this communities terms. i have been reading and listening here on Your site. Any other info or resources you or anyone else has is appreciated!
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Old 01-18-2011, 06:17 AM
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Just so you know, I didn't take it as such, but thanks for saying so just the same. Just as I had to say some stuff just the same,

I call Mono my baby, PN my love, Derby my sweets and Leo, well, just Leo my boy, LB is my bubs. Really there is no need for us to have names other than that...

There is a whole thread on what we call our loves somewhere... can't remember what tag, sorry... if anyone finds it, feel free to tag it.

These discussions come up over and over again. gotta love the predictable poly world... it's the shit that no one can figure out that gets me... like mono/poly relationships! GAUD, if anyone figures that shit out I will personally come over and bow down to you, for you will be my hero!!
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Old 01-18-2011, 12:43 PM
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These discussions come up over and over again. gotta love the predictable poly world... it's the shit that no one can figure out that gets me... like mono/poly relationships! GAUD, if anyone figures that shit out I will personally come over and bow down to you, for you will be my hero!!
Wouldn't it be boring if we didn't have the discussions/disagreements/dissent?

Although dialing it back about 40% would be fine with me...

It's interesting to see how different people learn new information... Some read for hours, and end up with the intellectual understandings. Others jump in and ask questions.. with no research...so the important questions get buried in a stack of trivial questions. A combination of the two is best...

I'll bet we've got people who just watch and read... but never feel confident enough to ask... I wonder what their questions would be.

(okay, I can't tell if I've had too much or not enough coffee... but I'd better head to work.) Have a good day all!!
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Old 01-18-2011, 04:24 PM
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\so the important questions get buried in a stack of trivial questions.
i must respectfully disgree with this a bit. What seems Trivial to you is important knowledge to another. As people explore they start slow. I have been reading, on other sites, books. i did not jump directly into deep philosophical discussions. And many of us are just exploring not even planning on this way of life yet. So ALL information is important. And those who really truly decide to keep studying and learn will find a deeper level of education. And since this is the "newbie" section, yes, you will have repeat questions, and they may bore you and cause old timers eye rolls, but they are NEW and important information to some of us.
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