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Old 09-06-2013, 04:09 AM
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Question Jealousy, Monogamy, Travel, and Foreign?~

I really apologize if this question has been specifically asked before, but I did not seem to have found any thing on this forum about this subject in this specific form.~

I am new to this whole 'dating' thing and I will soon be starting a life full of joyful chaotic nomadic traveling where I will be going to many different countries, experiencing many different cultures, meeting many different people, seeing many wonderful new things, and so much more!~

I am a United States of America Navy Sailor and I have yet to begin basic training.~ My life for the next 8 years will be rather interesting to say the least.~ I will be an Airman E-3 and/or a Seaman E-3 in rate after I graduate from basic training. A rate is something that not only includes how much you get paid in money, but also how many responsibilities you have as well.

My chosen MOS or Military Occupation Specialty that's another way of saying "job" will be Aerographer's Mate or AG for short.~ An Aerographer's Mate is an expert trained in meteorology and oceanography, in smaller words I study the sky, the weather, the ocean, and how they all relate together.~ I've always found watching the clouds and ocean to be interesting, now I get to study them yay!~ ^_^

As a Navy man, I will most likely be working on a ship or more and that could take me any where on this planet.~

My question really isn't a general question about jealousy or monogamy, but more of a question that has to do specifically with traveling and foreign people.~


As some one who is of the mindset where I do not want to get married, I do not drink alcohol, I do not smoke anything and I find smoking in general nauseating, I do not accept the concept of "pets" only livestock and other such creatures, I do not like the idea of living in one place for long periods of time,

I do hope to raise children one day but not right now or within the next 10 years nor do I mind if it never happens, and as someone who has almost an entirely alien way of seeing love:

how different are foreign people,

I hear that many countries outside the United States still live somewhat in a 'older age' is this true and do many still cling to their old 'traditionalist' values without willingness to change,

would they see me and my way of seeing things as strange idiotic or even crazy,

is it hard to find someone who is of an open-mind especially among foreigners,

what countries where would I most likely find more 'open-minded' people,

are there many people in this world who are of the 'nomad' mindset or at least open to it or do most people want to settle down and even if they say they don't do they 'eventually want to settle down' as they may change but I might not,

is jealousy a HUGE problem especially with foreign people of a different culture because I have heard some horror stories,

or my worst fear would foreign people misunderstand me or worse use me to mean that I am nothing more than some one who is looking for a 'fling' or nothing similar to love?~

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Old 09-06-2013, 10:57 AM
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So there are Americans and "foreign people", all of whom feel, think, and act identically? How astonishingly insular.

Edit: As someone who has spent the last 16 years working for an organisation similar to the one you're about to join but with a different flag, I think you're getting ahead of yourself if you think you'll be developing any form of long-lasting relationship with people you meet while travelling the world with 200+ of your nearest and dearest. Generally you'll find that you're in foreign ports for only a few days at a time, and very rarely will you visit the same place twice. The chance of striking up anything beyond the most casual of relationships with a local is pretty much nil.

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Old 09-06-2013, 01:53 PM
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So there are Americans and "foreign people", all of whom feel, think, and act identically? How astonishingly insular.

Edit: As someone who has spent the last 16 years working for an organisation similar to the one you're about to join but with a different flag, I think you're getting ahead of yourself if you think you'll be developing any form of long-lasting relationship with people you meet while travelling the world with 200+ of your nearest and dearest. Generally you'll find that you're in foreign ports for only a few days at a time, and very rarely will you visit the same place twice. The chance of striking up anything beyond the most casual of relationships with a local is pretty much nil.
Mmmk, that answers almost none of my questions what so ever, but thanks for the input!~ ^_^

Apparently either you think or you think that I think that all Americans and foreigners are similar, if it is the latter and not the former then you made these assumptions entirely on your own.~ I am actually indicting the opposite of insular since I am expressing interest in learning about other kinds of people and cultures not of my own.~ That is why I ask these questions.~ So I have no idea how you jumped to such conclusions.~

Although you did make it a point to include an "edit:" part in your post, so I suppose you caught yourself in this and are trying to apologize in a round-about way.~ In which case, yes I accept your apology!~ ^_^

Although if you meant the "ignorant" part of the definition of "insular", then you are correct I am rather very ignorant of such things, but again that is why I am asking these questions.~ ^_^

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Old 09-06-2013, 11:32 PM
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Apparently either you think or you think that I think that all Americans and foreigners are similar, if it is the latter and not the former then you made these assumptions entirely on your own.~ I am actually indicting the opposite of insular since I am expressing interest in learning about other kinds of people and cultures not of my own.~ That is why I ask these questions.~ So I have no idea how you jumped to such conclusions.~
You have expressed no interest in learning about "other cultures". You have lumped everyone outside the borders of your home country into one backwards traditionalist blob and asked to learn about that blob. That blob is a product entirely of your own imagination, it has no culture to learn about. If you had asked about a particular country or a particular area then you might not have sounded so utterly insulting toward everywhere outside the US.

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Although you did make it a point to include an "edit:" part in your post, so I suppose you caught yourself in this and are trying to apologize in a round-about way.~ In which case, yes I accept your apology!
No. In my edit I was offering 16 years of naval experience to tell you why you will likely find yourself disappointed if you expect to build lasting relationships with people you meet while deployed. Any apology you read into it was not intended.

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You have expressed no interest in learning about "other cultures". You have lumped everyone outside the borders of your home country into one backwards traditionalist blob and asked to learn about that blob. That blob is a product entirely of your own imagination, it has no culture to learn about. If you had asked about a particular country or a particular area then you might not have sounded so utterly insulting toward everywhere outside the US.

No. In my edit I was offering 16 years of naval experience to tell you why you will likely find yourself disappointed if you expect to build lasting relationships with people you meet while deployed. Any apology you read into it was not intended.
My questions were more in general about what is it like outside the United States or on this planet in general, it was never meant to be a specific series of questions with expected specific answers.~

I am only asking what each and every person who has had experience in this sort of general area of questions' subjects experiences were and any advice they could give to a novice to sea travel such as myself.

You have done this and I am grateful: thank you for the advice, it was very insightful!~ ^_^

I never meant to make it appear as if I was lumping all foreign people together as I tried to distinguish my questions accordingly, I meant SOME people from SOME countries that I have no idea the origin of.~ ^_^

But ultimately no matter what I intended my series of questions to mean, I can not change your interpretation of them nor your continued interpretation of them, that is some thing from you.~ ^_^

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Old 09-07-2013, 01:19 AM
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Are there many people in this world who are of the 'nomad' mindset or at least open to it or do most people want to 'settle down' and even if they say they don't do they 'eventually want to settle down' as they may change but I might not?

I guess in a nutshell, this is one of my greatest questions: do most people want to 'settle down' or 'eventually want to'? Are there no more swashbuckeling adventurers left in this world who never want to settle down?~
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