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Old 01-14-2011, 12:38 PM
belleisle belleisle is offline
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I know a man who is married and plays with as many woman as he can.
his wife does not know of this lifestyle and he indulges in it away from home.
he says he cares deeply about all his partners, although he is constantly searching for more.He is currently playing with 5 or 6 and looking for more.
is this Polyamory or something else?
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Old 01-14-2011, 12:49 PM
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I know a man who is married and plays with as many woman as he can.
his wife does not know of this lifestyle and he indulges in it away from home.
he says he cares deeply about all his partners, although he is constantly searching for more.He is currently playing with 5 or 6 and looking for more.
is this Polyamory or something else?
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You obviously haven't read ANYTHING on this forum.

I'm a little confused why you would go out of your way to research this question on someone else's behalf and not even attempt to do a little reading before asking such a basic question.

Ordinarily, I might be a little more gentle with you if you came here with your own crisis, not thinking straight and needing help. But this is someone else's problem, not yours (unless you are one of the women he is fucking - in which case, to answer your question, NO, it is NOT polyamory, it is a CHEATING AFFAIR).

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Old 01-14-2011, 12:57 PM
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Default anger management

I did not casually post this.
And I am easing my way into this forum.
And it is not on someone elses behalf.
And I did almost become involved with him.
please do not respond to me, if you feel the need to do so in anger.
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Old 01-14-2011, 01:07 PM
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I said i was confused, not angry. There is a difference. (ETA: the OP looked like a troll post at first glance.)

You really should read the forum. There is a lot of good information already written here.

A good place to start is:

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1830

or do a tag-search for "cheating" and "affair".

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Old 01-14-2011, 01:15 PM
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Polyamory is an evolving term in my opinion. But the barest bones of it are all about love. Not playing with people or hiding what you do. The short answer is no. He is a player.
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Old 01-14-2011, 02:31 PM
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Exactly.Thanks for the confirmation
Owning up, taking responsibility, looking in the mirror is hard.
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Old 01-16-2011, 04:40 PM
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Polyamory is an evolving term in my opinion.
I don't think it's evolving much, at all. It refers to part of the spectrum of nonmonogamy wherein folks have multiple romantic relationships at the same time with the consent of all involved. The word differentiates that part of the nonmonogamous spectrum from others--eg., swinging, open relationships.

A man cheating on his wife clearly is not polyamorous. He's just bad at monogamy. Should his wife gain full knowledge of his affairs and give consent, then he can speak of poly.
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When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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