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Old 06-25-2013, 02:29 PM
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Its always difficult to start a blog. You never really know where to start. So I guess I should start by telling you about me and my wonderful guys. I sometimes think that I am the luckiest woman in the world as I am loved by two wonderful men and we all get along great. They are both friends and often spend time together.

Keith (hes 44) is quite and reserved, the serious type. He's responsible and solid and very supportive and respectful. He's very open minded and we often discuss fantasies as he is a very in the closet bi guy. Sex is great with Keith just infrequent. I'm no sure why this is. I've had a hard time getting him to discuss it and it seems like when I try to talk to him about it, it just makes it worse.

Bob (he's 50) is just the opposite of Keith in almost everyway including body type. Bob is tall and slim and Keith is shorter and stocky. Bob is outgoing, wherever he is that is the fun place to be. There is never a dull moment. He's also very affectionate and passionate. A typical night at our place is after supper we watch t.v with me and Bob snuggled on the couch til bedtime.

Bob doesn't live with us, but his house is only a block away. I try to spend the night with him at least once a month and we usually go out on Sat night and one night thru the week. There is rarely a day that I don't see him. This past weekend we went to the lake. Keith was glad to have me home but was glad we had a good time.

My family knows about our triad. They are either accepting or they keep their opinion to themselves. It really hasn't cause any trouble with my family. Bob's close friends know and they are of the opinion that if its works then its fine and its not their business anyway. Keith on the other hand doesn't confide in others about our relationship. He so worries about what others think he doesn't give anyone a chance to be accepting.

I guess that's enough of an intro. I shall blog more later.......
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Old 06-25-2013, 03:37 PM
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I look forward to reading more about your journey. I am glad that things are going well for you.

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Old 06-25-2013, 03:58 PM
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Wow, that sounds fabulous. Especially the part about your family being okay/or dealing with it. How long has this been going on?

I can hear the contentment in your post. I love to read things like this. Keep up the blog, I can't wait to read more.
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Old 06-26-2013, 11:31 AM
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Wow, that sounds fabulous. Especially the part about your family being okay/or dealing with it. How long has this been going on?

I can hear the contentment in your post. I love to read things like this. Keep up the blog, I can't wait to read more.
I have been with Keith nearly 7 years now. We had been in a poly with a different guy before Bob but when I made the decision to move in with Keith he never really accepted it. I've been with Bob almost 2 years now but it was back in Jan when we all really got so close. Keith and I bought a house together and it just happened to be a block from where Bob lives now. When we moved he helped us out a lot and Keith really got to know him then. Its been great ever since.

I never made a conscious decision to hide or come out to my family about our relationship. But when they saw us all together and would ask questions I would be honest. I think that honesty helped a lot with their acceptance. I think it was the same with Bob and his friends. So I didn't just shout it from the rooftops but I didn't go out of my way to hide it either.
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Old 06-26-2013, 01:54 PM
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Our relationship hasn't always been this easy. Its taken a lot of hard work to get things to this point. When I first started seeing Bob, Keith knew him as their paths crossed due to work. But he really didn't know him all that well. After just a bit Keith started to be insecure and believed that I was taking things too fast with Bob and was worried that I would leave him for Bob. At his request I scaled things back. But I knew I didn't want to completely give him up, Bob had me from that first kiss. Sometimes you just know, the chemistry is perfect like love at first kiss. Anyway, needless to say there were more than a few rocky moments with me and Keith that first year.

Then in December things began to change. Me and Keith bought a house just down from where Bob owned property. When the property deal was finally done in January Bob started helping us move. He helped with renovations and even put down new flooring for us in my kitchen. And with all the time that Keith and Bob were spending together, Keith really had a chance to get to know him and Keith realized what I had been saying about what a good guy Bob is. That's when Bob started eating with us from time to time, and a few months later he moved down the street from us. Now its customary for him to be here at supper time and if he's not then its not just me that misses him.

My youngest daughter that lives close has gotten used to him being here as well. When she comes over its no surprise to her that he's here and my grandkids call him Uncle Bob (I just love that) We are not overly affectionate when others are around but I'm sure you can't help but know how we feel for each other. When my mother first realized that we had a poly relationship she questioned it but she finally came to terms with it. She just says that I'm grown and if I'm happy she's fine with it. My oldest daughter has the hardest time with it. She lives farther away so doesn't visit much. But she just opts not to talk about it. She says its my life and she won't tell me what to do but she just doesn't want to talk about it. Our neighbor I'm sure realizes our arrangement and they seem pretty tolerant as well. She asked Bob if we had a good time at the lake this weekend and seems to think that it great that we all get along. All this makes me believe there is more tolerance out there if we just give it a chance. Or maybe I'm just overly optimistic.
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Old 06-27-2013, 02:32 PM
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I realized that I had introduced my guys pretty well, but I really haven't said much about myself. Its hard for me to talk about myself, maybe because I've always been focused on other people. My focus has always been on my kids and my family, those closest to me.

I've been married twice before. The first marriage was the longest, 10 years. I had both of my daughters in this marriage, no kids in the second marriage. I married my first husband right out of high school with a baby on the way. I was young and stupid and thought we would all do a lot of growing up. I did the growing up, he did the running around and pretended he was single. By the time I married the second time I was pretty open to poly relationships but he wasn't that open. He preferred the don't ask don't tell policy which DOES NOT WORK. I can't stress that enough. He liked to do as he wished but he didn't like to think that I would be interested in someone else.

I'm 41, soon to be 42 and have two grown daughters (at least they like to think they are) One daughter is 23 the other is 21 and has two of her own. I'm currently in between jobs but worked as a bank teller for a long time. I'm also a bit of a geek. I read all the time and have my own blog devoted to book reviews.

I met Keith almost 7 years ago and we've had our ups and downs, but I am glad we've made it. He's a good man and I'm lucky to have him. We have always been interested in poly and have tried the swinger lifestyle. But I like the poly much more than just random partners. I knew that Keith was bi early on in the relationship and that that was an added bonus for me. I've always thought bi guys were hot and I have loved that aspect of our sex life. I guess that you would say that I am bi-curious as I have always been attracted to women as well as men but I've never had the experience. That side of life is difficult in small town America right in the middle of the bible belt. Maybe someday, maybe not.
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