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Old 06-12-2013, 08:22 PM
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Hello, all.

I don't know if such a word/phrase exists, but a partner and I were trying to think up a world that indicates a bias a person has toward nuclear families, like a heteronormative worldview, only one that applies to families, and indicates a person assuming that the world is structured in nuclear families and is biased toward these structures, whether in the way they describe or prescribe the world.

What word or phrase could we use (or do you use) to describe such a bias? If we think of one good enough, maybe we could put it in urban dic.

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Old 06-12-2013, 10:33 PM
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how about nuclearcentric, nucleocentric, or nuclearphillic, nucleophillic?
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Old 06-13-2013, 12:29 AM
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graviton, I love those suggestions actually, they seem good for more professional descriptions of a person who is biased. The bias itself might be called nucleophillic bias.

Marcus, I love NuFZ! Omg... I might really have to use that...
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Old 06-13-2013, 12:30 AM
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(Although, I do want to keep in mind that I'd rather not create another word like "vanilla", with all its inherent negative connotations.)
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Old 06-13-2013, 12:32 AM
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NuFZ is cute though... it's kind of like the word muggle?
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Old 06-13-2013, 12:47 AM
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Oh, duh! nuclearphillicist, nuclearphillicism. Or nucleophile.

Apparently nucleophile et al is already in use. I say it's fine to give it two meanings, seeing as it's only other meaning has to do with the nucleus of an atom.
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:52 AM
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(Although, I do want to keep in mind that I'd rather not create another word like "vanilla", with all its inherent negative connotations.)
I don't get what's wrong with vanilla anway? Someone who's into BDSM told me she'd never go back to vanilla. WTF? I'm not sure if what I do is vanilla but I sure as hell like it...guess I'm lame b/c I don't want to be flogged?
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Old 06-13-2013, 11:34 AM
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I don't get what's wrong with vanilla anway? Someone who's into BDSM told me she'd never go back to vanilla. WTF? I'm not sure if what I do is vanilla but I sure as hell like it...guess I'm lame b/c I don't want to be flogged?
What's wrong with the word is exactly this. It's makes you feel like shit, and it makes kinky people seem like asshats.
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Old 06-13-2013, 12:46 PM
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I don't get what's wrong with vanilla anway? Someone who's into BDSM told me she'd never go back to vanilla. WTF? I'm not sure if what I do is vanilla but I sure as hell like it...guess I'm lame b/c I don't want to be flogged?
I don't see "vanilla" as negative at all, even when applied to ice cream. Have you ever had really, really good vanilla ice cream? It's subtle and sublime.

Of course, the flavorless garbage most places serve as "vanilla" ice cream has led people to believe that vanilla is no flavor at all.
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Old 06-13-2013, 04:52 PM
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I don't get what's wrong with vanilla anway? Someone who's into BDSM told me she'd never go back to vanilla. WTF? I'm not sure if what I do is vanilla but I sure as hell like it...guess I'm lame b/c I don't want to be flogged?
Nothing wrong at all with not being into kink, but the word "vanilla" connotes "plain and boring." I prefer to say I am "non-kinky" or a "non-kinkster" over "vanilla."

Do an advanced search for "vanilla" and you'll find a thread where we discussed this.
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