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Old 06-04-2013, 10:29 PM
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Default what do your partners kids call you?

I have been in a poly quad with my wife, my gf and her husband for a year. my gf has a daughter who has called me uncle her whole life and is going to turn three soon. I just had a son with my wife. I had a discussion with my gf about what the kids call us and she feels calling us aunt and uncle is weird because my gf wouldnt kiss or go to bed with her other uncles. so i was wondering if anyone else used any different titles or if its better not to use titles at all.
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Old 06-04-2013, 11:34 PM
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My name.
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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Old 06-05-2013, 12:04 AM
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My kids call Murf by his name.
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Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
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Old 06-05-2013, 03:01 AM
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When my husband and I were together, my stepson called me by my first name. Now, if I were to date anyone who has kids, that is how I wish to be addressed.
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Old 06-05-2013, 03:02 AM
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Same, by my name. It's special to me, because he's so young that he very rarely addresses anyone by their name, but he knows mine and says it regularly. He can sometimes be prompted to say someone else's name, but the names he really knows are "Mama", "Daddy", and "Anna".
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Old 06-05-2013, 04:01 AM
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I grew up calling close friends of my parents and some other moms in the neighborhood aunt and uncle. It just meant closeness. I'm pregnant now and if things go well with my husbands girlfriend my baby will call her aunt X.

I never had any issue seeing the difference between a friend aunt or a family aunt so who is sleeping with who doesn't matter, I think.
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Old 06-05-2013, 10:18 AM
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thanks for the input!
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Old 06-05-2013, 05:57 PM
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Old 06-10-2013, 08:43 PM
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Funny about the Uncle/Aunt thing. I found out some years ago, that my grandparents were in a quad with another M/F couple when I was a kid. They spent a lot of time with us, holidays, birthdays, etc. I called them Aunt and Uncle. I think if I was in a relationship with someone or others who had kids, I'd prefer they called me by my name.
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Old 10-25-2013, 05:08 AM
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I think if I were to ever have kids as I would LOVE to do so one day, but I wouldn't mind if it never happened as I don't have any regrets, I would simply have my children refer to people by their relationship to them with their name, if my children prefer to use other names then I'm ok with that depending on the words.~ hehe!~ ^_^

Example with 4 Dads and 5 Moms: "Daddy Bliss" (Me), "Daddy Mark", "Daddy WoodBeard", "Daddy Bee", "Mommy Hen", "Mommy Crystal", "Mommy Blossum", "Mommy Dove", and "Mommy Sky".~

I see absolutely no problem or issue at all with children referring to their parents by their actual names or any kinds of names if they so choose to.~
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