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Old 11-27-2010, 03:55 AM
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Hello everyone. I am currently single, but I was married to a man for 5 years, but after that I was in a relationship with a woman for 3. After much heartache and craziness from both and much self searching I have come to realize several things about myself. I am bisexual, and I want both a man and a woman in my life. I have told this to my friends, jokingly at times. But, since I am a very truthful person, my best friend took me seriously. I talked to her about it one day and she asked me the blunt question, "Why can't you have that? Why can't you have one of each?" To this I had no real answer. I guess that is why I am here on this website. What I want kind of freaks me out a little since all I can think of are those old movies from the 60s and 70s about people living on communes and delving into free love or whatever. And I have this fear that all this talk about openness and communication may not really help and that in the end multiple relationships may be a total distaster. Despite this, from reading various threads, discussing this with my best friend and a very close friend and giving this much thought I feel like I am in the right direction. And, I feel like I can relate to the people on this site and I don't feel so weird about my wants and needs. Alright, there it all is and here I am.
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Old 11-27-2010, 04:15 AM
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Welcome! This site seems like a perfect place for you to be! There are many who are bi-sexual and interested in poly relationships.
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Old 11-27-2010, 03:27 PM
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Thanks! I appreciate it. And I am feeling even more comfortable now that I have introduced myself and have been reading more threads! Life is crazy, isn't it? I never would have guessed that this is where I would be in a million years.
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Old 11-27-2010, 04:00 PM
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As a new member myself it probably isn't my place to say "Welcome" but I can say "Hello".
Reading your post and what your friend said about 'Why can't you have both?" reminds me of a conversation my wife and I had a long time ago when we were discussing having an open marriage. I said to her then "Who decided that we can only love ONE person? Who made up this rule? And WHY? Who decided that I am only capable, or able, to love only one person instead of two, three or twenty? Where is the limitation on a human beings capacity to love other people?"
Nice to meet you and hope we get more chances to exchange ideas.
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Old 11-29-2010, 11:47 PM
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Default too true..

Thank you Ithink. I find myself to be so loving and so invested in the people that I care for. I do see the capability in myself to love more than one person at a time. I could definitely handle it. And, you are right, who is to decide? I feel like we all have our own path in this life, and it is up to each of us to find our own way. We cannot judge one another. Plus, I am the one who has to lay down at the end of the day and live with my own conscience. If I am not harming others or causing harm to the environment, what is wrong with loving more than one person?
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Old 12-01-2010, 04:51 AM
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Thanks! I appreciate it. And I am feeling even more comfortable now that I have introduced myself and have been reading more threads! Life is crazy, isn't it? I never would have guessed that this is where I would be in a million years.
Hi OneUncagedBird,
I saw you posted on one of my threads recently. I didn't realize you were new on here, too. I never thought I'd find this forum or even put a name to my thoughts either. It all makes sense now. I'm learning and growing. I am in a situation where my husband now knows of how I feel but has asked that I not bring it up again, or we will face the Big D because he can never share himself with another woman. He refuses counseling and is avoiding the book study I've presented to him. I love him dearly, but this site is my outlet until I make future decisions.

I hope you find what you are looking for on this site.

Erin

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Old 12-01-2010, 05:08 AM
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I welcome you here. I'd say feel free to send a PM my way, but you seem to have already. ^_^ I hope the site is helpful for you as it was for me.
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Old 12-01-2010, 05:10 AM
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I hope the site is helpful for you as it was for me.
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Has this forum helped you find love, advice, or other???

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Old 12-04-2010, 06:02 AM
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Hi OneUncagedBird,
I saw you posted on one of my threads recently. I didn't realize you were new on here, too. I never thought I'd find this forum or even put a name to my thoughts either. It all makes sense now. I'm learning and growing. I am in a situation where my husband now knows of how I feel but has asked that I not bring it up again, or we will face the Big D because he can never share himself with another woman. He refuses counseling and is avoiding the book study I've presented to him. I love him dearly, but this site is my outlet until I make future decisions.

I hope you find what you are looking for on this site.

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Wow, very tough situation. Hope things get better!
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Old 11-30-2010, 02:11 AM
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Welcome to the forum. You should work on shaking that 'weird' feeling. You are beautifully and lovingly unique and you can have all that you desire as long as you are willing to communicate and persevere.

I look forward to watching your journey.
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