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Old 03-18-2013, 08:18 PM
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Question What do you call people who dislike, hate, or are afraid of the polyamorous?

I'm coming across a lot of ignorance which doesn't surprise me, but I need to post something about this and need a word that parallels homophobia. But the words "poly-phobia" and "poly-racist" have other meanings that have nothing to do with polyamory, and looking up polyamory-phobic just brings up comments about people who are polyamorous that are assumed to be commitment-phobic. There isn't a word listed in the vocab section of polyamorysociety.org either. Has anyone come across a word for this? Thanks!
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Old 03-18-2013, 09:07 PM
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If you find the word you're looking for, what are your expectations? Will you present the word to these people whom you say reject non-monogamy, and they will say to themselves, "wow it all makes sense now. My attitude is prejudiced and circumscribed. I should change because the way it is now, i am just like a person who is racist or homophobic, and those two attitudes are wrong. I don't want to be wrong, therefore i will accept polyamory the same way i accept gay people."

Is that what you think this new vocabulary word will accomplish?
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Old 03-18-2013, 09:34 PM
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Is this for a paper or something you are writing? The only thing I can think of is "uncomfortable with polyamory."

Such as "People who are uncomfortable with polyamory" perhaps? Could that work in your thing? At least as a place holder til you get the rest of of it done?

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Old 03-18-2013, 10:03 PM
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In my experience changing people's attitudes requires finesse, not attack.
There isn't a term.
How I deal with the fearful is to describe my real life and let them see how our family interacts.
So far-no negative outcome from that approach. Even the religious who "dont approve" acknowledge that we are making it work.
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Old 03-18-2013, 10:07 PM
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I know lots of people who are uncomfortable with polyamory, but I wouldn't say they hate it. I wonder if "prejudiced against polyamory" would be more appropriate. "Prejudiced" speaks more towards an unreasonable and close-minded dislike, hate, or fear.
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Old 03-19-2013, 08:50 AM
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Mononormative?
I've actually seen "polyphobic" a lot. Didn't realise it had another meaning.

I don't think we need a word for any kind of discrimination or prejudice. We can just tell someone they're prejudiced or bigoted.
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What do you call people who dislike, hate, or are afraid of the polyamorous?
I think my suggestion of anti-polyamory (which of course could also adjust to "anti-poly" and "anti-polyamorous") was brilliant and simple, if I do say so myself (and I do) but no one acknowledged it.
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I think my suggestion of anti-polyamory (which of course could also adjust to "anti-poly" and "anti-polyamorous") was brilliant and simple, if I do say so myself (and I do) but no one acknowledged it.
I agree.

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