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Old 06-25-2009, 11:37 AM
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I don't know where to start, I'm not in a poly relationship and have never been. I have always been curious about poly relationships, I'm in a couple of groups but of course I never post anything. I'm too scared to, even thought I have this tugging at my heart to jump in and talk, I don't. I'm hoping that joining this forum I will meet some people who will talk to me about poly and why I have this undying need to connect with others into this lifestyle. Believe it or not I live with two men but in no way, shape or form is it poly and I don't want it to be with them. So if anyone is interested in a real newbie, I'm here.

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Old 06-25-2009, 01:21 PM
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Congrats for de-lurking. Hopefully you will join in on some of the conversations and let us know more what you are thinking.

Are you into paganism? I have noticed that a large number of polyamory people are also pagan.
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Old 06-25-2009, 01:40 PM
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Quath, Thanks for the reply. No, I'm not into Paganism, I know nothing about it. Are you into it?
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Old 06-25-2009, 01:42 PM
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Welcme and never worry about opening up or asking the "hard questions" here. This is a safe place for learning, growth and support

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Old 06-25-2009, 02:17 PM
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Thank you MonoVCPHG,

Now, where do I begin? LOL

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Old 06-25-2009, 02:28 PM
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I would say do some browsing, find a thread or person you can relate to and start talking/asking! Or just put a question out there if you don't see something related. Don't be afraid to start a new thread.
Good luck!
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Old 06-26-2009, 02:32 AM
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Quath, Thanks for the reply. No, I'm not into Paganism, I know nothing about it. Are you into it?
No. I am an atheist. i thought maybe your screen name was a hint at some mystical belief.

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The DD and HOH thing is one reason why I tend to keep quiet and lurk, I was open to my family about my beliefs and now outcasted..LOL but that's life I guess..
I find that in poly circles that people tend to value ideas about honesty and seeking personal happiness. if this makes you happy and you have found it then more power for you.
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Old 06-26-2009, 04:13 AM
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First of all I would caution you to take only what I have to say with a grain of salt. As I myself am realtively new in the exploration of Polyamorism, my insights are still nacent and developing.

You are curious about WHAT it is to be polyamory? I am not sure if it is a matter of mind set, view point or a genetic disposition. However, I would say that it is a point of being able to love more than one person comfortably, openly and unreservedly. The nature and depth of that love can be different from partner to partner, but then again... are not all relationships unique?

I could never begrudge a person that was stead fastly monogamus. And in some ways I would hvae to say that I would envy that person. The difficulties of choosing? accepting? giving in to? (is there really a choice?) the polyamory lifestyle can be numerous. And It is not something for the faint of heart. And yet again, does it diminish it to call it a "lifestyle"? I think so.

I would guess it comes down to the ability of a person to SHARE their heart. openly and honestly. To be willing to see and appreciate and LOVE more than one person for the uniquness of their gifts and the flavor of the affection that can be shared. It is not in everyone to be able to SEE that loving more than one person at a time is possible. And yet it is not everyone that can devote themselves completely to just one other.

To be poly in my mind is to be EAGER for the chance to open ones heart and mind to others while yet being involved in a loving relationship allready. To some how have this, urge to reach out and WANT to love others without reservation while cherishing the love that is allready present.

Well, that is my two cents. I wish you well on your quest. And I hope that in time you will discover the answers you need to help you move on in your life for the pursuit of that which will satisfy and sustain you the most.
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