We are not all Unicorn Hunters!

[Malfunktions]

Hey all,
Not normally a venter but I HAVE been jaded.

And no, before I start, this did not happen on this site. Everyone that I've met here has been the very bestest!

5 TIMES. that's the number of times I have been labeled a Unicorn Hunter.

My LTR and I have decided to add a third. I am bi. He is straight. So far yes, it's adding up to possible Unicorn Hunter alert status. But here's the kicker. We have no bridge to gap, perfectly content with each other. Lack nothing. Want for nothing. He wants to welcome another woman, I want to welcome another companion. No one knows a girl like a girl! Plainly put.
He's 33 and a VERY active sexual beast, LOL, and I'm a 27 year old with a submissive personality. Another woman will be able to satiate his prowess as I won't feel like a literally rubbing post HA HA HA HA HA.

The only way to approach this situation is with humour because there is nothing wrong here. But when we post that we're looking to date, to add, etc, we are met with criticism.

Reasons this irritates me:
1) We're looking for an equal companion
2) We have no idea what we're looking for so there's no list of best qualities or things we'd like to see.
3) We don't "shark" the bar scene.
4) We're NOT the Bonnie and Clyde of Polyamory. We're not looking to find the optimum and then corrupt and defile.

So that's pretty much it... Apologies if my thought process is all over the place and difficult to follow cause I refuse to proof read rants. Because when you proof read rants they become a methodical complaint.

Anyone feeling me? Sound off below!!!!

[Natja]

To be fair a Unicorn Hunter is a couple looking for a bi-female to be a partner to them both.
It doesn't have anything to do with your four reasons. Therefore your whole rant boils down to 'We are not Unicorn Hunters, except we are, but I don't like being called it'

[Malfunktions]

My apologies for the misunderstanding. Any research on the subject I found was directed around the requirements of an intense criteria that they were looking for as such.

Again, I apologize for the rant.

[Natja]

No need to apologise, we all need a good rant at times!!

[niceinjeans]

There is definitely a negative connotation to the term "unicorn hunter", but I believe it stems from people's experiences with M/F couples looking for a bi woman to form a triad. These explicit expectations have shown to be unrealistic in practice; numerous issues have been laid out in other posts (what if she bonds more quickly to one of you, what if no romantic bond happens with one of you, etc, etc). I am not saying that an equilateral triad with two women and one man is not possible; I certainly believe all relationship models are possible. However, the sheer number of M/F couples seeking this idealistic model greatly outweigh the number of successful triads I have seen.

Have you tried dating separately?

NIJ

[RfromRMC]

Originally Posted by niceinjeans

However, the sheer number of M/F couples seeking this idealistic model greatly outweigh the number of successful triads I have seen.

Or more pointedly, they outweigh the number of actual single poly bi females seeking a MF couple. Which is why they are called "Unicorns", as in, something rare, and hard to find.

Perhaps a more polite way would be to say "Unicorn Seekers" instead of "Hunters". (Unless they are doing it overly aggressively, in which case "hunters" might be appropriate in those cases.)