why is it so damn hard..

[flux29]

I swear it seems impossible to find someone worth while these days.. All I am landing lately is people who want a quick lay.. While that is fun and all, I want a ltr.. My frustration is building...

[kdt26417]

Heh, I can relate to that, from back in the days when I was looking, and I finally gave up. Yes, even on OKCupid, I just had no luck at all. Not even a quick lay; the people I was interested in just didn't feel likewise, not a one of them. And I had a hard time finding percentage matches too. 80% was rare. Usually it was lower. Heck, the lady I'm already with came up only a 65% match or something on that order. And most of the people with higher percentages were, sigh, way too much younger than me.

None of this helps you in your frustrating situation, but at least you now know of one other person who has been there. And OMG, I can't even talk about how horrible the search was before finding OKC. Sigh. It's a meat market out there.

[flux29]

Ugh, okc is good if i want a great stiff dick for a few nights.. But alas, i dont. Lol

[Pyuvii]

Ya know, I've always found when I stopped looking and stressing over it, someone popped up.
The world likes to be ironic DX

[Helo]

I was like three seconds from giving up on OKC when they threw a perfect pitch. She's pretty awesome.

[BBQGreg]

Originally Posted by flux29

Ugh, okc is good if i want a great stiff dick for a few nights.. But alas, i dont. Lol

I've had success searching for long-term girlfriends with it. It did always take me awhile, but that I think was more on account of who I am/who I appeal to, who appeals to me, and the population of where I was living.

Originally Posted by kdt26417

Yes, even on OKCupid, I just had no luck at all. Not even a quick lay; the people I was interested in just didn't feel likewise, not a one of them. And I had a hard time finding percentage matches too. 80% was rare. Usually it was lower. Heck, the lady I'm already with came up only a 65% match or something on that order. And most of the people with higher percentages were, sigh, way too much younger than me.

When I was in college, I had the same "matches as high as the low 80%s are rare" issue. Fast forward 5 years and move to a different city, and high 80s/low 90s was common. But I actually found the 75%-85% range was most interested back in me. And that's where I ultimately found a gem.

[NovemberRain]

Originally Posted by flux29

I swear it seems impossible to find someone worth while these days.. All I am landing lately is people who want a quick lay.. While that is fun and all, I want a ltr.. My frustration is building...

Do you have any platonic female friends that could look at your profile and maybe critique for you? I'm thinking friends, because they know you, and presumably care about you, and they could identify if you're coming across as you; or point out things that maybe they think aren't working for the women you want to attract.