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Old 09-18-2010, 07:55 PM
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Default Do we need a new word?

If Compersion is the opposite of jealousy what can we call the feeling we get when our loved one is hurting over another relationship and we feel that too?

All I could come up with is discompersion because of the discomfort it brings up, but it isn't right.

Suggestions please.

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Old 09-18-2010, 07:59 PM
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anti-compersion

non-compersion

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Old 09-18-2010, 08:22 PM
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no, no, no, I can say I'm feeling compersion but I can't say I'm feeling uncompersion or any of the others. I suppose I could say uncompersionable, but that sounds awkward. Maybe we need a whole new word?
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Old 09-18-2010, 08:34 PM
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Why doesn't empathy work? Is it more than that because we can experience joy when society tells us to feel jealous? We needed a word for the opposite of jealousy because of how pervasive (and strong) feelings of jealousy typically invoke.

I'm not sure that people generally feel joy when someone they want to be in a relationship with is having a hard time with their current relationship (even if we see opportunity - that's still different from joy). If we truly cared for that person, we would still probably struggle with seeing that person suffer.

So, I'm not sure what you're describing serves the same kind of role that comperson does with respect to jealousy.

I could be wrong.
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First word I thought of was empathy.
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Old 09-18-2010, 10:35 PM
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polyempathy?
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