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Old 08-21-2010, 06:10 PM
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Default why "poly women" are bisexual ???

hellooooooooo friends

it is interesting to notice that almost all women here, real "polys" or "thinking about it" are bisexual.

(I am going to say it shortly, I could write a book, poetry, on this matter...)

In my opinion this relies on a "female universal psychology" :
the woman is much more able to adapt herself to "changes".

Since millions of years she leaves her house, parents, friends, her personal family name, and even her city. This is a strong push to "change/adaptation".

And this "ability to change" relies on what ?
on "generosity"...

on a much complex "emotion/feeling" system than the male one.

This is essentially why I became a teacher :
apart the (normal) pure teacher's pleasure of "building the progresses of the other one",
I discovered that "the woman is a violin",
and I see my role as "playing the most wonderful symphonies she may sing"...

Additionally I discovered that a woman “loves better” the man that has this skill…

So, back to the point, the woman may easier be BISEXUAL, because she may adapt herself faster/better than a man...

Furthermore (no insult, no offense, it is just something I noticed), bisexual women are "more clever" and "more generous", and have a faster brain.

I could continue for hours on this interesting subject.

Tell me your thoughts, please

If it is NOT interesting, say it.
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Old 08-21-2010, 07:08 PM
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I'd say women have had to be adaptable as in a patriarchal, Western capitalist societies we haven't had a choice! Leaving the family was not often a choice (we were sold off as property in marriage by our fathers) we lost our family names due to this, being housewives/working for the war effort/going back to being housewives was so rarely a choice. We've had to be adaptable because there is often no other option, we simply did not have a say.

As for bisexuality, I feel that it is socially more acceptable for women to be bisexual. A lot of men are terrified (due to social constructs) of being seen as 'gay' or a 'pansy man' - which is why a lot of guys can't even consider anal sex with their female partner for fear of it making them 'gay'. Women have less far to jump to consider being bisexual, and to an extent less to 'lose' in terms of face. Not to mention the lesbianism=sexy construct (which completely devalues women's sexuality) which means women will kiss friends for the benefit of the men watching
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Old 08-21-2010, 07:38 PM
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In the poly circles I've ever moved in, most women are NOT bisexual. I am only one of 2 that I know are fully bisexual, have had or have relationships with both men and women.

I do know that many women in poly or swinging or experimenting relationships try many things they normally wouldn't at the urging of their S/O, some even under duress and with many regrets.
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Old 08-21-2010, 08:04 PM
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I do know that many women in poly or swinging or experimenting relationships try many things they normally wouldn't at the urging of their S/O, some even under duress and with many regrets.
Be careful, you're "stereotyping" women who are poly, swingers, or in experimental relationships. People searching in Google might think this forum is marginalizing and oppressive and stuff, and leave.
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Old 08-21-2010, 09:26 PM
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Be careful, you're "stereotyping" women who are poly, swingers, or in experimental relationships. People searching in Google might think this forum is marginalizing and oppressive and stuff, and leave.
Nope, I'm not stereotyping anyone. I'm speaking of specific people (who shall not be named, naturally ) that I have known personally in 20 years of being involved in said communities. Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.
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Old 08-21-2010, 11:42 PM
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Nope, I'm not stereotyping anyone. I'm speaking of specific people (who shall not be named, naturally ) that I have known personally in 20 years of being involved in said communities. Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.
I didn't take what she said as stereotyping at all -- just her opinion with true people she's met...total facts.
As for me -- I'm seeing bisexual women seem to have more fun in life! I've had my first experiences within the last year & they were more intense, in some respects. It has enhanced some fun with SO, too! Everyone being happy is a good thing, right?!!!
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Old 08-22-2010, 03:33 AM
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Nope, I'm not stereotyping anyone. I'm speaking of specific people (who shall not be named, naturally ) that I have known personally in 20 years of being involved in said communities. Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.


I was being a wise-ass. Half-serious, half-sarcastic as always. Beleeve me I know where you are coming from. I been there done that and it's nice to see I am not alone, not that is it mattered it I were but wahevet. Carry on. Kirk out/
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Old 08-22-2010, 05:59 PM
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........... Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.
Nope Passion,

You NEED to speak free and from the heart. That's what keeps it real.
If someone gets their panties in a bunch because of it just don't fall into the trap of feeling you have to defend yourself. Just let it roll. People who get offended by simple speech will always be offended. People who aren't never will be. It all comes out the same in the end.



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Old 08-21-2010, 09:34 PM
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Smile I prefer a BISEXUAL woman, why ?

Heloooooooooooooo

this always astonished me...
I said "above", that I noticed that a BISEXUAL woman is "more sensitive/clever/faster".

Well it may be a "perspective error", I am PERHAPS more sensitive to those kind of women.... some of the women I have LOVED are bisexual...

I noticed also that this behavior "facilitates" a "polyfamily".

ok, ok... if you are NOT bisexual, you may still be a perfect candidate for "my family"...
.. the most important remains : know to "deep love", this is the number one request.

Anyhow, we are all different like a fork and a knife... (try to eat rice or noodles with a fork, and to cut meet with a fork... )

but this huge difference enables that "together" we may better eat
... the dish of LIFE
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Old 08-23-2010, 06:15 AM
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I do know that many women in poly or swinging or experimenting relationships try many things they normally wouldn't at the urging of their S/O, some even under duress and with many regrets.
I have noticed some of this too. The way you said this was just fine Passionista... you didn't generalize and clearly say that "many" and "some" experience this... all seems quite clear that you don't mean every woman. Don't worry about censoring yourself; if you use language in the way you have above, if someone takes offense then I would suggest that they are the ones that need to look inward. You seem to be writing just fine.

I have noticed far more bi-curious women or bi-situational women than actually bi. To me, my pansexuality is about being able to love a woman and desirous of her sexuality merging with mine. Not about poking around her body cause it is kinda cool to check it out and "weeeee look at me I am bi. Do you find this hot honey?"

I think men can be just as bi as women, they just haven't caught up to being open about it in our society... as Magdlyn said, there are many that are underground and bursting to be understood and open without it in some way being an attach on their masculinity if they do.

By the way, I am thinking that you were joking Fleur...? I, for one, need no help from anyone in conducting my bi activities. How about you? Do you need help? Can I be of assistance?
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