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Old 08-14-2010, 06:33 AM
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ok... I am so full of questions since I am new..

Am I right in assuming here that being the girlfriend of the married man, it is totally normal to hangout with the boyfriend AND his wife?? What I mean is... Its normal to go to their place and hang out and totally normal if I stayed the night??

lay it on me....
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Old 08-14-2010, 06:36 AM
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It can become totally normal actually I just spent the entire day with my girlfriend, her husband, her parents, and her ex wife...and now I am spending the night and will get up with their son. And it feels very natural to me
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Old 08-14-2010, 06:40 AM
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Am I right in assuming here that being the girlfriend of the married man, it is totally normal to hangout with the boyfriend AND his wife?? What I mean is... Its normal to go to their place and hang out and totally normal if I stayed the night??
Yep. That not being normal is a warning sign. If they think it's normal, you're probably good.
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Old 08-14-2010, 06:52 AM
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Yep. That not being normal is a warning sign. If they think it's normal, you're probably good.
they think its normal.

you guys are helping me here alot.. thanks mwahhhh
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Old 08-15-2010, 07:29 AM
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Yep, completely and totally normal. And great! And fun! Right?
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Old 08-15-2010, 10:04 PM
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MUCH better than if you can't do that!
My husband, boyfriend and I hang out together with the kids, our families etc.
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Old 08-17-2010, 05:23 AM
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It's been a while due to scheduling and distance but my GF and her BF and I hang out and it is a lovely time. In fact, my second date with her was dinner and convo with the three of us and we've shared several more times of just being together sharing movies, music and personal narratives. Along with the sometimes awkward negotiations around sleeping arrangements (LOL).

I have found that sharing space and events is a wonderful way of helping to keep the other love from becoming some kind of monster onto whom we can project some of the almost inevitable feelings of jealousy, doubt, or whatever upon.

And the beauty is that BF and I have a genuine liking and respect for each other. That just adds to the beauty and depth of the connection.
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Old 08-21-2010, 05:39 PM
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MUCH better than if you can't do that!
My husband, boyfriend and I hang out together with the kids, our families etc.
Is it wrong that I have envy for this? Really I'm just being impatient. I know I will meet my bf's wife sooner than later (they are both poly and have been for years, but we live a bit of a distance away and we both have youngish kids). But I have sort of a fantasy of us all hanging out. There's my idealism for you! And I'm excited to meet DW's secondary. She sounds fantastic!!!

In short, I think it's great (I don't care for the judgment of normal, but it does seem normal in a healthy way)!

Good luck!
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Old 10-19-2010, 09:31 AM
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ok... I am so full of questions since I am new..

Am I right in assuming here that being the girlfriend of the married man, it is totally normal to hangout with the boyfriend AND his wife?? What I mean is... Its normal to go to their place and hang out and totally normal if I stayed the night??

lay it on me....
I agree with everyone else . It's most definitely normal and OK.

I live with Breathes. I date Possibility who lives with his two partners & two kids. We all get together and just hang out, do the one on one thing, take breaks from each other, etc. In fact we had a non-Thanksgiving dinner together & it was so fun we want to do it again!

Enjoy and have fun!
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