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Old 08-11-2010, 07:36 PM
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Question meeting his wife

Ok so a little about my situation. I met a wonderful man at the local gay bar (I am bi, he's straight) and we hit it off right away. Him and his wife are in the military. He just got back from Iraq 3 months ago and she will be returning on SATURDAY! Her and I chat everyday via messenger and talk on the phone on the weekends. We get along great thus far. Last night I didn't realize how many emotions I have for her returning home. Him and I started talking yesterday and I just broke down in tears. I am so overwhelmed with emotion, I am terrified, because what if she doesn't like me, I am excited to finally meet her and I am very anxious about getting to know her. How do I get rid of or calm these nerves down so that I am not a ball of emotion when I do finally meet her in a few short days?!
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Old 08-11-2010, 07:58 PM
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I don't know how to get rid of your butterflies, but I have a question. What was he doing in a "gay bar" if he's "straight"?
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Old 08-11-2010, 08:17 PM
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What was he doing in a "gay bar" if he's "straight"?
I go to the gay bar with Redpepper and our friends to dance. I love the lack of macho bullshit that a lot of other "straight" bars have. The guys at work just raise thier eyebrows when I tell them this. Frankly, getting hit on by anyone regardless of gender can feel nice...not that that ever happens to me.
They all know I'm with Redpepper now so I'm not very popular LOL!
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Old 08-11-2010, 08:24 PM
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I go to the gay bar with Redpepper and our friends to dance. I love the lack of macho bullshit that a lot of other "straight" bars have. The guys at work just raise thier eyebrows when I tell them this. Frankly, getting hit on by anyone regardless of gender can feel nice...not that that ever happens to me.
They all know I'm with Redpepper now so I'm not very popular LOL!
Yes, but I want to know why THAT guy (in the OP) was in one. I'm just curious, that's all.
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Old 08-11-2010, 08:39 PM
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Yes, but I want to know why THAT guy (in the OP) was in one. I'm just curious, that's all.
Gotcha..yeah, what was he doing there?
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Old 08-11-2010, 09:17 PM
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Gotcha..yeah, what was he doing there?
LOL! Actually Mono is right. He goes there for the environment. It is really laid back there and him and his wife go there all the time when she is in town. She is bi as well.
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Old 08-14-2010, 04:45 AM
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I didn't get a wink of sleep last night, because I thought his wife would be flying in yesterday, but she didn't. I have been so stressed the butterflies are beginning to make me nauseous that I vomitted once already. She for sure will be here in just a few short hours, I may or may not be meeting her tonight. He is sure we will hit it off just fine and that I will have both a bf and gf to complete a triangle triad. I just need to meet her and get to know her. I am so freaked, because I don't know what she will think of me and meeting ppl is something that is very hard for me to do!!!
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Old 08-14-2010, 04:53 AM
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Old 08-14-2010, 06:05 AM
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Just breathe.
Best advice ever ...

And advice I will have to take myself soon I think...

Enjoy it and ride the fun of meeting new people. Its a new adventure in left.
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Old 08-14-2010, 07:53 AM
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just think of it like you are meeting a new friend,because thats what it is at the beginning
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