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Old 07-16-2010, 04:14 AM
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I'm curious....My wife and I have not really identified as "poly" for very long. We used to identify as "swingers", but that was not really what we were. Anyway, since identifying as "poly"....we've noticed that a LOT of poly people or people who claim to be poly, are very much like "hippies" from the 70's. (i.e. smoke pot, want to just live and let live no matter the consequences, wear funky shirts..usually tie dyed, etc etc etc) Sorry if this describes you and/or offends you. That is not my intent. It is just an observation. My wife and I are NOT part of the "hippie" movement or genre.

Has anyone else noticed this?










I know this will offend some, and I'm ok with that. I'm tired of being PC all the time. It is hard to do. LOL
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Old 07-16-2010, 04:18 AM
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actually I notice some trends. I don't fit into most. ...my wife is a hippy and had an easier transition than I did...

I will simply leave it at that
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Old 07-16-2010, 04:27 AM
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I find a general similarity in approaches to sex and love actually. I've had an old friend say that poly is just a re-emergence of the hippie movement from her perspective which I think would be shared by a lot of people on the surface. I personally do not identify as a hippie but also don't see anything negative in the comparison....Hey, Hippies are people too!
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Old 07-16-2010, 04:36 AM
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No. The vast majority of the poly folk I know are not hippies. They're friendly with hippies and can be found hanging out with hippies at times, though they are not hippies.
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how is your question not PC? something is not PC when there is a passive aggressive tone behind it that are pointedly rude/bias/disrespectful towards another person or persons... one that is meant to make a dig on purpose or without care for others... you just asked a question. That's it. I can't see how that is offensive.

yes I have noticed that btw.
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No. The vast majority of the poly folk I know are not hippies. They're friendly with hippies and can be found hanging out with hippies at times, though they are not hippies.

Also, the vast majority of hippie folk I know are not poly. They're friendly with polys and can be found hanging out with polys at times, though they are not poly.
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Old 07-16-2010, 01:21 PM
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Interesting responses so far. Thanks!
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Old 07-16-2010, 06:31 PM
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we've noticed that a LOT of poly people or people who claim to be poly, are very much like "hippies" from the 70's. (i.e. smoke pot, want to just live and let live no matter the consequences, wear funky shirts..usually tie dyed, etc etc etc)
The above doesn't describe the poly- communities I know best. The fashion/music subculture easiest to identify amongst them is goth/industrial. There is not a lot of tie-dye.

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Old 07-16-2010, 06:45 PM
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Interesting still....It seems that there are even more people who are poly from even more genre's. Maybe they are regional? I know that in this area, a LOT of them are the hippie type....and a lot of them are into the sci-fi stuff also.

This poses a bit of an issue for my wife and I, as we don't really relate to these people very well. We're not hippies....and we're definatly not into sci-fi at all.......Sigh....It's so difficult. LOL
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Interesting still....It seems that there are even more people who are poly from even more genre's. Maybe they are regional? I know that in this area, a LOT of them are the hippie type....and a lot of them are into the sci-fi stuff also.

This poses a bit of an issue for my wife and I, as we don't really relate to these people very well. We're not hippies....and we're definatly not into sci-fi at all.......Sigh....It's so difficult. LOL
I think it is regional. And I to a point have the same problem.

You could always go and try and find another level to relate on. ...

Its funny, I am a sci fi geek...I don't do sci fi
I ran d&d and roleplaying games for decades...I don't relate well to most gamers
I enjoy bdsm play...but for me its just play. I enjoy the rush it gives, I dont live it

But in those circles I have found random people to relate to (and this forum has been good too ) You might have to step out of your comfort zone into someone elses to find what you want, and heck you might like it.
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