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Old 07-15-2010, 12:59 PM
micaela micaela is offline
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hi everyone, i dont know where to start, so heres where i am. i have been married for 12 years and have three girls and a boy due in nov, resently my partner has come to me and said that he wants an other woman but still wants me and the kids, so as he as be honest to me, i say i would try this new relationship out, i know who the other woman is. he when and saw her last week for the first time and he has been very good at answering my questions that i have had. yesterday me and the other women sent message to each other to hopefull become friends. i just want to know am i going about this the right way? as i am not intersted in having a relationship with anybody else. please can you help.

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Old 07-15-2010, 04:06 PM
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Welcome aboard.

Sounds like you're doing just fine.
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When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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Old 07-15-2010, 05:07 PM
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Wow, you sound very calm about this, so congratulations on being so accepting of your partner's desires!

Sounds like you are doing well. Keep the lines of communication open with your hubby. It's so important!

It's also great that you would like to know the other woman better. Sometimes it's more reassuring to talk to the other person, rather than getting second-hand info.

As for not wanting any other relationships in your life, that is just fine! We are who we are. If you are happy to let hubby explore this interest and have time to yourself/with the kids/with your friends, then great!

The "right way" is what feels right to all parties involved.
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Old 07-15-2010, 07:40 PM
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Hi

Sounds like you're doing a bit too fine to me?
This is a safe and usually supportive environment for you to get some help, but you have to ask for it specifically.

From your post you do sound as if you're handling it really well and doing all the right things but don't suppress feelings that may come up for you. How do you feel about being pregnant while all of this is going on?

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Old 07-15-2010, 08:08 PM
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hi,
im not say i dont find it hard sometimes, and my husband as be really good with me when i do. i do find it weird as to why now specially as i am having a boy that he as wanted for a long time.

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Old 08-01-2010, 08:57 AM
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hi again, just want to say thanks for the advice. things are going ok but from me and her becoming friends as this is new to her too, she hasnt been able to talk to me yet, so i am leaving that for a bit to see if it helps for now, my husband is going to see her again soon and stay the night and im not shore how am going to cope with this yet so any advice will be welcome and its not to do with the fact that they will have sex because they had sex the first time they meet. micaela
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