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Old 10-27-2012, 09:02 PM
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"Sarah" and I are a mature couple from the south east of England. We have been together for fourteen years and are very happy. Over the last couple of years my health has deteriorated to the point where I can no longer be the dutiful partner that I once was. We have discussed at great length the prospect of her having another man in her life and she has now said that a guy for a longterm meaningful relationship would be lovely.
It feels like we are now in a wonderful place to start our new life and I hope she finds the right man to put the fun back in her life. I love her so very much.
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Old 10-27-2012, 10:46 PM
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Perhaps needs to be moved to Dating & Friendship section ??

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Old 10-29-2012, 09:38 PM
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Hello JohnnyEnglish,
Welcome to our forum.

Don't hesitate to post any questions you may have ... You sound like a lovely/loving couple that is just in a time of transition.

Glad to have you aboard,
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Old 10-29-2012, 09:44 PM
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Thank you for your kind words. The hardest part is finding someone that we both trust to make Sarah happy and to take car of her. If we found that special guy for her we would both be truly contented.
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Old 10-30-2012, 08:09 PM
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Well, I wish you the very best luck in your search.
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Old 10-31-2012, 03:13 PM
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You're a kind soul JohnnyE. Not everyone could make that shift in their mind and be content with the possibilty that their beloved wife has needs you can no longer meet and has to go elsewhere to meet those needs.

You may find you have unexpected emotions when she finds someone. This is very common. Fear, jealousy, envy, sadness, unhappiness - even while acknowledging her joy - are possible. If this happens - and it's not inevitable - allow yourself to feel them. You have the right to feel your feelings, even if they are ugly, not what you expect from yourself and directly contradict what you happily agreed to do with for Sarah. Allowing yourself to feel, even if very painful, is the only way to move beyond those feelings to just feeling the geniune joy I believe you will also experience.

Best of luck!
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