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Old 10-24-2012, 11:22 PM
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Hi I am brand new here. I am mono and my husband is going out with his friend tomorrow night. She is our hairstylist. We have talked quite a bit. I don't know I am feeling so many things and am really trying to understand what I'm feeling. Confused - part of me is excited for him and what I think this will do for us, but another part of me is insecure, jealous, scared...
they have been flirting heavily with each other for a while, which he has told me about. I like to know all details because it makes me feel more a part of things. I don't know if that's wrong or right?
How do i deal with my emotions?
What do i do with myself when he is out with her?
Any advice would be very much appreciated.
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Old 10-24-2012, 11:26 PM
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Currently in the same boat...my girlfriend is sleeping over with a guy we just recently meet....kinda going nuts here but I do know what you are going thruogh
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Old 10-24-2012, 11:32 PM
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Thanks Vosh,
I'm sure there are a few of us out there.
wish i had some words of wisdom for you.
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Old 10-24-2012, 11:43 PM
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so far everyones advice is leave...look at my posts for the whole story
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Old 10-24-2012, 11:45 PM
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Communicate... talking about things will usually make the boogie man (green eyed monster) go away.. work it out.. slowly. Discuss HOW YOU FEEL as well as how they feel....
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Old 10-25-2012, 12:01 AM
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We are communicating, but talking with him is different than talking with people that have been, or are in my situation. Which is why I am here.
Slowly...how long does it take to adjust to this?
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Old 10-24-2012, 11:47 PM
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I will look at your posts...
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Old 10-25-2012, 12:25 AM
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so far everyones advice is leave...look at my posts for the whole story
I am absolutely stunned!

I read through the responses you have received some good advice. There seems to be a lot of kind and helpful people on here.
Wish I could give you a hug right now.
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Old 10-26-2012, 03:40 AM
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In my own experience you have to say you're feeling jealous, insecure and afraid, and maybe angry, too, and have people deal with your feelings. If you don't you're subverting yourself for someone else or just to keep the peace, which won't last.

It takes a long time and sometimes you have to do the same thing over and over again to get it resolved.

With us it was something like, "I'm feeling jealous, insecure and afraid I'll lose you. I'm not asking you to do anything about it, I just need to tell you and have you acknowledge it."

Many talks, many tears and much love later it works out.
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