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Old 06-26-2010, 12:11 AM
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So I have been researching the poly life. Not sure if it is right for me/us so I am doing as much research as I can so I will have the answers when the girls ask.

So I am 35m, GF is 32, and the 3rd is 31yof. It sounds like the most likely situation would be a vee with me on the bottom and both girls being =. I have no expectations or thoughts of them having any kind of physical relationship but would like them to have a solid friendship.

It is not going to be possible, nor wise I am sure, for use to all live together at first but that would be my end hope. For those that do live together as a vee like this be it 2m 1f or 1m 2f how do things work in your house?

How do you make one on one time for each?
Is there divided space for each person to have their own space?
How are household duties done?

I am a person who is affectionate and likes to be close and hold hands, touch, cuddle, ect.
What are the sleeping arrangements?
If you are sitting around watching TV do you have one partner on each side "cuddling" or do they take turns?
If you are traveling do they take turns on who gets to sit up front/next to you (depending on vehicle)?

I am sure I will have more questions as I go but those are the ones on the top of my head right now.
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Old 06-26-2010, 12:18 AM
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Although I don't live in a v, I have been involved in a very integrated one for 19 months. At first these things might seem awkward and need to be consciously thought about, but eventually it becomes so natural it just flows. Things like who will sit where in the car and watching tv together just happen. If people are at the point of living together they have already probably passed the need to think about these things at all
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Old 06-26-2010, 12:55 AM
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Although I don't live in a v, I have been involved in a very integrated one for 19 months. At first these things might seem awkward and need to be consciously thought about, but eventually it becomes so natural it just flows. Things like who will sit where in the car and watching tv together just happen. If people are at the point of living together they have already probably passed the need to think about these things at all
Very good point. As I said still trying to learn all I can before I decide if this is right.

Just trying to ask as many questions as I can think of and gain whatever kind of input I can.
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Old 06-26-2010, 03:50 AM
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If you do a tag search on "living together" you will come up with four threads started by others on this question... why not have a look?
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Old 06-26-2010, 04:28 AM
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I just did that. It only showed 4 threads though.
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Old 06-26-2010, 01:51 PM
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That's what redpepper said.

Try a keyword search. I don't seem to recall a very large number of threads on here being focused on that topic. It comes up in conversation now and then, but I think four is the number of threads that get into it at great length.
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