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Old 10-01-2012, 02:21 PM
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Default MI couple seeking a F

Hello! We are new to this whole thing. My fiance and I have had several threesomes, but we want a true friend. He's straight, 38, 5'4, 150lbs, Italian with dark hair and eyes. She's bi, 30, 5', 110lbs with dark blonde hair and blue eyes.
We want a woman who doesn't like drama, short, and slightly curvy like me to just casually date and introduce a sexual relationship with both of us at the right time.
He keeps telling me to forget the haystack, I'm looking for a needle in the forrest, but I'm a very determined woman!
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Old 10-01-2012, 07:11 PM
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As you may well have noticed, there are lots of couples out here looking for a bi female. "Standing out from the crowd" can be quite a challenge, and many have reported a lack of success.

What I have noticed is that most of the posts are just too generic - "need a bi female as a friend and for sex" doesn't really tell anyone much about what they are looking for beyond a gender and capability for sex.

Is it ok if this person has other relationships, or is married? What about smoking - are you smokers? Is it ok if she is? If she already has children?

I'm sure you get the idea.

Good luck on your hunt.
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Old 10-02-2012, 06:36 PM
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Thanks for the tips! I figured it's going to be quite a journey in our search, so any help is welcomed!
My guy has 2 kids, and I have 2 kids from our exes. We also share two small children, and it's awesome if our woman were to have kids...one extra thing in common .
I am a smoker, he is not. We are open to smoking.
We are both social drinkers.
We are both DD free and expect the same in return.
It's fine if she happens to be in a relationship. We'd be willing for same room sex or women sharing if that were to come up, but I'm completely satisfied with the guy I have. I want a woman.

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Old 10-02-2012, 07:05 PM
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We'd be willing for same room sex or women sharing... I want a woman.
Do you want a woman for yourself, or does she have to be into 3somes as well? Would your male partner not let you just have a gf or casual play partner to yourself? That would be much easier to find.

Personally, I've done quite a few 3somes at this point and much prefer one on one sex. 3ways are so complicated. Sometimes emotionally, but often just the physical logistics make me feel too scattered and therefore unable to focus and be brought to the best orgasms.
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Old 10-02-2012, 09:14 PM
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And I'll add a question, based on what you've written - you say "dd free", but different people have different limits when it comes to some diseases, especially Herpes (HSV1 and HSV2). Statistics indicate that 1 in 4 people have some type of Herpes, and that more women than men have it.

What are your feelings on that?
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:06 PM
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Default So helpful!!!

You can't imagine how much it means to me how helpful you are! Obviously, I'm quite new to this whole thing. My guy brought it up recently, and it sounded exciting. Figured this was the best place to start, and I'm so glad I did!!!
We are into threesomes. John doesn't like to play unless I'm very involved. Of course, we started as just him being an observer, and it's become more active throughout the years. I thought it was more exciting when he joined into the fun.
Honestly, John and I both have pretty scattered pasts, and we've made it this long without a single disease, so we're very against diseases. I know that makes my search a bit harder, but we have young kids, and our lifestyle shouldn't impact them because of our carelessness...
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