Having Children with the secondary?

[BlackRoses]

Would like to hear about this topic from experienced triads and groups. What are the pros and cons we have discussed it and she does want to have children with me ,know what,i just need to hear opinions ,if you need more facts please ask?

[redpepper]

I'm not sure I understand what you are asking.....

[Ariakas]

Originally Posted by redpepper

I'm not sure I understand what you are asking.....

I think the poster is a guy...
His current primary does not want kids
He does

Thats where I get fuzzy. Is he bringing in a secondary as a surrogate lover/birthing machine or does he have a secondary that wants kids, with him. And how to approach the primary....

Of course I could be completely wrong

[SchrodingersCat]

While the surrogate mother / baby machine at first sounds horrible, it got me thinking... I mean, there are some women out there who really want babies but don't want to be single parents. Wouldn't it be so much easier for those women to just be swooped up by a couple who can't have kids? Get to focus on your kids, but still have a boyfriend and a best friend and live with both of them, plust free babysitting? Just thinking out loud, being half-felicitous...

[LovingRadiance]

WOW-read it so differently.

Well-our situation.

Had a baby-bio child of my "secondary". The three of us are raising her together. She calls Maca (my primary) "daddy", but everyone in the family knows her genetics and it's not going to be a secret from her either. She's only 2 so she doesn't UNDERSTAND those details yet, but we don't lie, hide or pretend.

she's happy, we're happy....


IT REALLY depends on the details of the people involved how you handle it...

[BlackRoses]

married to my high school sweetheart for 16 yrs 4 children and we 've had a girlfriend of 6+ yrs,what do you think about us planning more kids wth our girlfriend

[rolypoly]

Originally Posted by LovingRadiance

She calls Maca (my primary) "daddy",

LR, why does she call Maca daddy? What does she call GG?