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Old 09-14-2012, 10:05 PM
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Hi! I'm new to these forums and to poly in general and just wanted to say hi. As someone who is open and honest and embraces the uniqueness in myself and others I was thrilled to learn about poly. I've always felt limited by monogamous relationships and have been looking to make new connections with others. It's not about the sex for me- it's about forming new bonds and relationships with other like minded people. As a newbie I'm feeling a little shy about taking the next steps with people but it feels good to take the first step. I'm so glad this community exists.

I'm married, a mom with a toddler and feeling limited by my monogamous relationship. I'm here to take a step to explore a new dimension to my life and relationships. It's already feeling like the right fit. I'm so glad this forum exists! I can't wait to meet new people. Thank you!

Liz in Mass

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Old 09-16-2012, 09:17 AM
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Welcome to the forums Liz!

I hope you can find lots of information and support here. Personally, I find the approach of letting relationships develop as they will and being honest (with yourself and others) about who you are to be appealing.

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Old 09-16-2012, 03:45 PM
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It is great to have you here. Feel free to chat and talk about what is going on with you life with everyone. What I have been doing is reading the posts by people on the sight to get a feel for them.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:03 PM
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Hello and welcome! I'm also new here and exploring the poly concept, this seems like a very good place for resources and real life learning.
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Old 09-17-2012, 08:54 PM
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Hi Liz,
Welcome to our forum.

No need to rush yourself through the steps; take your time and check out the various threads we have on these boards. There is a lot you can learn.

It's good to have you with us. I hope you will enjoy your time on our site.

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Old 09-18-2012, 06:31 PM
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The freedom to explore our needs as individuals is primary in any relationship. At least you are now connecting with those inner needs. This seems to be a safe, informative place to ask questions and make new friends--I am new here myself. Good luck!

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Old 09-19-2012, 12:59 AM
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As someone who is open and honest and embraces the uniqueness in myself and others I was thrilled to learn about poly. I've always felt limited by monogamous relationships and have been looking to make new connections with others. It's not about the sex for me- it's about forming new bonds and relationships with other like minded people.
That's exactly how I feel! I'm new too, you can go read my intro post if you want. I have a toddler too btw
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Old 09-19-2012, 10:11 AM
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Hi! I'm new to these forums and to poly in general and just wanted to say hi.
Hi back!
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It's not about the sex for me- it's about forming new bonds and relationships with other like minded people.
You hit the nail on the head there.
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As a newbie I'm feeling a little shy about taking the next steps with people
Awwww We're nice people, really! You don't have to feel shy with us.
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I'm married, a mom with a toddler
You (and SkylerSquirrel) might be interested in the following threads:
poly books and stories (also films) for children (This one for when your children are a bit older.)
Breastfeeding
Children and Polyamory
And -for a whole list to work through: Threads Tagged with children

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And two that newbies in general might find useful:
"Stop me if you've heard this one" - clichés we've heard from non-polys
Tags (Independently of this link, to get here you click on "search" in the blue bar at the head of your page, then on "tag search".)
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Old 09-22-2012, 02:19 AM
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Wow. Thank you for all of the responses. I'm a bit overwhelmed- in a good way! All of the welcomes and resources are greatly appreciated. Thank you! I just started the conversation with my husband about my need for more. More connections, more people to love, in my life. It was hard but I already feel like a weight has been lifted. What a great community here. Thank you!
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Old 09-23-2012, 10:08 AM
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so the question is how did that conversation go?
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