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Old 09-12-2012, 01:47 AM
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For those of you with children, how do you balance the poly withthe parenting?

Are all members of the relationship (if it's a triad/quad/v) involved in parenting and childraising? Or just those who biologically created the children?

I love hearing how other people organize their homes :-) and make it work for the kids.
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Old 09-12-2012, 02:08 AM
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Group effort with raising the kids and no secrets.
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Old 09-12-2012, 02:57 AM
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Closed during parenting years.

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Old 09-12-2012, 03:22 AM
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Ours is still theoretical, as we don't live all live together yet, but we are not planning on co-parenting. The children MC and I have together will be expected to listen to TGIB the same way they would an aunt, uncle, or babysitter- he's an adult, you will respect him as such, you will do as you're told if it's a safety issue, and when in doubt check with mom or dad. We make the decisions about them, and while we may asking for his perspective now and again, we will not need his agreement. And the same for his kids that TGIB has with his ex.
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Old 09-12-2012, 06:38 AM
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My gf and her husband had their first child about two years after she and I started dating. We came to the conclusion before the baby was born that we couldn't predict exactly what would make the most sense in terms of my role until we'd had a chance to feel out the new, post-baby dynamics, but that in theory I would be an "Aunt" type figure. Things have, indeed, worked out that way. I'm not a co-parent, but I do a lot of babysitting, I love their child very much, and he knows and seems to like me. We don't live together, for the record.
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Old 09-12-2012, 01:14 PM
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My husband and I have a child together who is 2 years old. Our daughter refers to our bf/gf as aunt and uncle. They were our good friends before we decided to have a poly relationship, so the aunt and uncle just stuck. They will occasionally watch her and help keep her out of trouble. But, as far as the regular parenting things go it's on my husband and I. They are currently pregnant and I'm going to assume it will be the same way when they have their child.

We have been living together for about a month.
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