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Old 05-22-2010, 09:53 PM
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I've been here.

Breathes' first other relationship after we got together was with a lady (using the term loosely) whom I tried to get to know and like. Unfortunately the longer I was in his life without showing signs of capitulating the more walls she put up so that I couldn't get close to her, hoping that the more walls she put up I would eventually be pushed out. It didn't work. I'm still here, they're still friends just without the benefits.

He's got another lady he's interested in but their schedules aren't working in their favor right now. I don't know her well enough to form an opinion yet.

Possibility (and his partners) and Breathes get along great! They play D&D together, we all watch movies together, we can all talk about just about anything together. I like his primary partners & they like me.

Of the two relationships outlined this last one is the one much preferedby me. It makes my life a whole lot easier because they DO like each other. We enrich each other's lives in ways which wouldn't have been possible if we didn't have this kind of relationship.

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Old 05-22-2010, 11:29 PM
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I like the kind where everyone gets along and can hang out, or at least recognize the other partners and accept them without feeling the need to belittle them or put up walls. Having said that, I usually try not to talk about one partner when I am with the other partner unless they ask and even then I keep any personal information to myself. Mine don't really talk on their own, one of them is having some jealousy issues and the other one is still very new in my life and I haven't really asked him about whether he wants to get to know my other partner. On the couple of occasions when they've run into each other they're always polite but it would be awesome if they had a connection like yours do.
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Old 05-22-2010, 11:35 PM
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It is awesome & I'm glad it is that way. I don't think I could do it if they couldn't be friends.
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Old 05-23-2010, 05:52 AM
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For me it is very important that my partners get along with each other. Even better if they care about each other. After all they have invested in me and I in them. That is strengthened when my partners care about each other.

I realize that this is a high standard of expectation, but I don't generally bother with good when I can achieve best/great anymore. I learned the hard way that there is nothing of worth that comes out of good relationships, just the knowledge that best/great is what is more preferable to obtain. Well, I did that and know that and now am more inclined to not bother with partners that are not going to get along with who I am already with.
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Old 05-23-2010, 02:22 PM
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Agreeing with everyone else on this one. I would imagine that things would be much better if everyone got along. To me that shows a sign of respect that is absolutely necessary in this lifestyle.
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Total agreement - the better that everyone gets along and can establish healthy means of communication, the less the whole dynamic relies on "people in the middle" relaying messages and trying to find middle ground or good solutions.

When there is a friendship, then things can happen that show more synergy than compromise.
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