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Old 05-12-2010, 12:40 AM
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Default A word with the Dad.

So the new wife arrives next Thursday and I have to meet her Dad and such. That's going to be pretty damn awkward. What do I say to him when he asks our arrangement? She's to have a full time job, screw around with the wife and I and help watch the kids? For heaven's sakes. How about some pointers? For those of you that haven't seen my previous posts my wife and I have been together 6 years, have two brilliant young ones and are very in love. About a month ago her best friend of 12 years came to visit and they jumped me. We all romped for a good portion of the night and though I don't know her friend 'real' well I do enjoy her company. My wife requested of me very kindly that I allow her friend to move in and become a part of our family so I have made an effort to get to know her recently and have become kind of into her which my wife enjoys thoroughly.

Now her friend is coming to move in with us and I am completely cool with it. However I have to converse with the female friend's Dad who is of course concerned when his only daughter (and youngest child) moves out of state and in with an already married couple and of course he will realize something is up when he's helping us move her stuff into the room that is currently occupied by the wife and I.

So please.. On this topic give me your thoughts, suggestions, etc. I could use a little help here.
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Old 05-12-2010, 12:51 AM
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I'd say the first thing to do is speak with her about what she's shared with her father and what she's comfortable sharing with her father.
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Old 05-12-2010, 01:06 AM
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I second autumn.

If it were MY father the answer would be simple-he ALREADY KNOWS so don't worry about it-just be yourself.

IF it were my sisters father it would be -just don't say anything about any topic deeper than the current weather.

IF it were GG's stepfather it would be -RUN just RUN the other way like Forrest Gump.

If it were Maca's father-It would be-dude you can't shock him, he's at least as kinky as the rest of us-don't worry about it, be yourself.

SO you need to ask her what the case is with HER father.
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Old 05-13-2010, 01:05 AM
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So far from what I know of him the guy seems like a hard-ass. He does run a pornographic website though from what I understand but he is still very adamant about his morals which kinda throws me off a bit. I've never spoken with him personally to this point but from what I hear I don't want to. He's a yeller I hear and though that may intimidate some people, I'm 6'6" tall and just over 310 lbs so I'm not easily intimidated. Suggestions?
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Old 05-13-2010, 02:06 AM
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Sure, be a gracious host.
If he chooses not to act the gracious guest, then politely invite him to take his attitude outside with a gentle reprimand that "we don't allow that type of behavior in our home, I'm sure you'll understand."

IF he happens to try to refuse to exit, then firmly take his arm in hand and guide him out the door silently.

That generally makes it obvious to EVERYONE who is being the ass.
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Old 05-13-2010, 02:20 AM
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Default The Ass

The problem with being my size is that people can assume the ass is you and that you are being aggressive even when you're not. So I have insisted that every time I speak to her father either she or my wife is present. I don't want wild claims about what I've done or said to him to start. The problem with that is that I don't want the father to feel alienated or that the environment isn't casual at the same time. So I relax with him and let loose or I get uptight and censor every word. Not an easy choice.
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