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Old 08-11-2012, 02:21 AM
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Default How do you find poly people??????

I am just starting this journey or search on my own. I am very new to all of this and have never had this type of relationship although i think it is what i yearn to have. in either a TRIAD type of relationship or a mfmf type.

My question is what are my best resources of finding other poly people in my area.....St Louis. i have googled an not really come up with much.

I can always find the triad as far as sex. but i want the relationships with another man and woman and all of us together. it just seems to be more difficult than i imagined. and frustrating.
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Old 08-11-2012, 02:37 AM
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The LGBT community-if you get involved, and people start feeling safe and comfortable with you, they will start opening up. Many poly's are "in the closet" in the LGBT community. At least in our area.

Also, I'm very open and vocal about being poly, so other people who are poly tend to hear me talking about it and migrate in my direction.
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Old 08-11-2012, 02:40 AM
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thank you.

i do go to the local "gay bars" so to speak. i feel quite comfortable there. i guess i need to start being more open with people about what i want and am looking for. it can be hard to do, especially when people have such pre conceived notions about it.

it is a great feeling to know what i want and yet so frustrating to try to actually FIND that.
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Old 08-11-2012, 02:49 AM
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There is a yahoo group in STL. Not sure how active it is and you have to join to get info, but you might be able to find some poly-specific or poly-friendly events that way.

OkCupid is also a good poly-friendly site. If you make a profile you can search for "poly" as an interest and see if many profiles pop up.

Other than that... Just throw it out there now and then. Like LR said, a lot of people aren't really "out" until they get to know you or find out that you're poly too, so just being open and receptive will probably help. The LGBT community around here is almost anti-poly, but the poly community is almost as large so there is probably a bit of underlying competition that feeds the animosity. There is some overlap, but not much. It varies quite a bit by area, it seems, so trying to meet just one other local poly person is a good way to get started.
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Old 08-12-2012, 02:41 AM
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You may have already tried this but meetup.com (which is free to join) may have poly groups listed in your area. Try polyamory, open, non-monogamous for keyword searches. Good luck!
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From a post in the Online Poly Resources thread in the Golden Nuggets forum:

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Also, do a Tag Search here for the term "meeting people" to find other threads on the topic.
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Old 08-24-2012, 02:59 PM
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The LGBT community.
Yep. Non-monogamy has always been the norm in the LGBT community. They are light years ahead of the pack on gender, too.
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Old 08-25-2012, 08:37 AM
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My Partner and I are very open about us being POly. If we meet someone great if not oh well. Most of my female friends want to explore with us which is just fine. We enjoy having fun and doing things with other people.
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Old 08-25-2012, 11:26 PM
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For how to find local groups, I think the best advice is at the bottom of Alan's events page at http://polyevents.blogspot.com/
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