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Old 07-30-2012, 02:49 AM
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You know those games or random conversation starters that people always use? Well, one that I always disliked was the whole "tell me/the group something that makes you unique." I'm not exceptionally good at anything, so my default was always that I'd never been on an airplane. For 21 years this was true, now it's not so I had to think of a new one.

What makes me unique now?

I lack all ability to whistle. Can't do it. Can't make grass whistle like some can, can't purse my lips and whistle, can't put my fingers in my mouth and whistle, none of it. The only way I can whistle is to use an actual whistle.

Anyone else lack any of those random talents that most people have?
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Old 07-30-2012, 03:58 AM
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Me tooooo! I can't whistle. Sometimes I have success with the blade of grass tho. I make up for it by being able zip my own zippers (I'm super flexible).
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Old 07-30-2012, 04:53 AM
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Me tooooo! I can't whistle. Sometimes I have success with the blade of grass tho. I make up for it by being able zip my own zippers (I'm super flexible).
lol I can zip my own zippers about 90% of the time. Right now being part of the "extenuating circumstances" that make me unable (I'm super sunburnt so lifting my arms hurts like hell haha).
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Old 07-30-2012, 05:41 AM
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Hmmm...that's tough for me. That sounds like one of those questions that extroverts think "break the ice" but cause an introvert like myself to withdraw into a deep pit of introspection only to emerge 3 days later with an answer that no-one cares about anymore. (Pardon me but I am having some introvert/extrovert issues at the moment - Dude "identifies" as an introvert, while being the most extroverted person I know...drives me NUTS! - he's not an introvert, he just used to be SHY!. He doesn't understand that I am not "broken" and don't want to be "fixed"...Grrrr.)

There are some uber-flexibility stuff that makes for neat party-tricks (NovemberRain knows what I am talking about) - but I don't view those as "unique" - just rarer than average - I'm not a carnival contortionist!

My usual answer for this question is either 1.) I am bisexual and poly (which wouldn't be at all unique in THIS forum) or 2.) I drove over 5,000 miles the summer I got my Driver's License and have been to all 50 states in the USA (and 4 countries other than my own).

None of these says a helluva a lot about ME - so I never felt comfortable about this sort of question. We are ALL unique...there is no special experience/skill that makes me unique, it is the sum total of my experiences and internal responses that makes me interesting (to the people that find me interesting).

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Old 07-30-2012, 10:43 AM
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My triad has lots of "Introvert" vs. "extrovert discussions...

I'm getting business cards printed that say "Introvert Unicorn who knits" along with my phone number and blog. (Although I need to start writing on the blog again... life got in the way..)
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Old 07-30-2012, 12:10 PM
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I can eat fire.

I too have been thinking muchly on the whole introvert/extrovert thing, mostly in how I fit in, or don't fit in, in various local communities.

JQS, have Dude read 'Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking' by Susan Cain. It will likely help him understand.
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Old 07-30-2012, 01:01 PM
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... so my default was always that I'd never been on an airplane. For 21 years this was true, now it's not so I had to think of a new one.

What makes me unique now?
How about "I hadn't been on an airplane until I was 21"? By picking an event in the past you have the advantage of never needing to change it again.
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Old 07-30-2012, 06:33 PM
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Mine used to be that I'd only had one cup of coffee in my entire life. I used to call coffee "that vile fluid" and only drank tea. It changed when I got married. We honeymooned in Costa Rica and whenever I ordered a cup of "te con leche" they would dunk a tea bag in a cup of hot milk. Huhhhh???? So, I gave in and drank coffee and, for the first time in my life at age 39, I started liking coffee. Now I drink it daily, but I am far from a connoisseur and still think a lot of coffee is vile.

My other unique thing used to be that I was in a Whitney Houston video (just as an extra), but now that she's dead, I'd feel like a ghoul to say that.

Now I don't know what I would answer if someone asked me this. "What makes me unique? My DNA, you stupid motherfucker!"

Gawd, I hate this stupid question. I have a friend who used to always ask people "what do you remember on the day JFK was killed?" Yeah, rather morbid. Of course now that we're all old farts, most people in mixed company were born after that. Then he started asking, "what's your earliest memory?" which can be interesting. When I'm trying to get to know someone, I ask "What was the first concert you ever attended?" and that gets us talking about music. But I don't often have to resort to stuff like that. Ice-breakers are for people who don't know how to look someone in the eye and take an interest in who's in front of them. If one is truly present in the moment and responding to the human being who is right there, there isno need for a list of ice-breaking questions.
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Old 07-30-2012, 09:01 PM
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I have always felt that if you dont remember to show people you see them if you will with gestures. Like one day last week I was driving by my wifes work and called her and ask her if I could stop and get her a just because I love you present what would she like. She said oh no but Ice cream sounds good so I ran over and got her two scoops and wrote on the cup just because I love you ice cream and dropped it off that sort of thing and we been married almost 19 years.
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Old 07-30-2012, 09:12 PM
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I've never been a fan of this question either, and I agree that it is often more trouble than it's worth, but it's interesting to hear what other people have to say. I figured it couldn't hurt since it is obviously voluntary to respond on here. It's not like I'm in your face and pressuring you to come up with something. lol

I think personal experiences (like JaneQ's travel) ARE a part of what makes a person unique, so even if it isn't super personal it is still a great answer.

I also couldn't wink at all until about 6 months ago. For some reason I have very little control of my facial muscles and it was REALLY hard for me to learn. Years of trying, hard. To this day if I wink very often, my face will get all spazzy. Apparently it's really humorous to see, but I kind of hate not being able to wink with the ease that most people have.
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