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Old 07-24-2012, 12:16 AM
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Default Tertiary partners/relationships

I was looking for information on the internet and I can't find much. I can find a lot of information on secondary's but hardly anything on tertiary partners. I know they are similar to secondary's but different in there own way. What can people tell me about tertiary partners/relationships?
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Old 07-24-2012, 12:58 AM
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Default Clarity?

Can you be more clear about the context? Do you simply mean the order in which you met people? Or are you giving different weights to different relationships based on time spent together/longevity of relationships/amounts of sexual contact or ????
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Old 07-24-2012, 01:08 AM
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Really depends what you want to know.
The "line up" of terms would be
primary
secondary
tertiary

so if you are using heirarchy-they come third in line.

Some people use it to mean those whom they see least often.
Some don't use the term at all.
Some use it to mean people they have hte least commitment to.
Others see it as equal commitment but further away.....
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Old 07-24-2012, 01:19 AM
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I know the order of the terms, but besides that I don't know much other besides that. How much time is spent with these partners? What makes them different than a secondary partner?
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Old 07-24-2012, 02:32 AM
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I believe LR just explained why a designation such as "tertiary" would be different from a "secondary." Distance, amount of time spent, emotional investment, financial involvement, whatever - can all be factors in "grading" someone's involvement in one's life. Just ask yourself what reasons you would consider someone third place in your life. Seriously, though, you don't even need to use those terms. Not every poly tangle goes by hierarchical positioning. Many of us, myself included, find the whole primary/secondary/tertiary terminology rather icky. I think of people whom I see less often as "satellite relationships" rather than tertiaries.
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Old 07-24-2012, 02:36 AM
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That totally makes sense. Thanks guys This forum is so helpful!
I'm not a big fan of the term myself but I was just wondering what it meant to more experienced poly people.
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