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Old 07-18-2012, 05:07 PM
Gary Gary is offline
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Hello Everyone...wow this looks like a great forum. I am really looking forward to spending time here.

As I said in my title, I am brand new here but not new to poly. My wife and I (of 29 years) have been in a wonderfully satisfying poly relationship with another married couple (of 20 years) for the past 5 years. We were best friends with them for some time before that and our romantic relationships simply evolved into what we are today. None of us planned it, expected it, or even knew we could be open to it. We literally fell in love with our best friends.

We are not open in our families (though a couple of them have figured it out) or in our professional lives due to the consequences we would face. My wife and I have a fundamental Christian background and our families could never understand how our lives could be anything but "living in sin". We are all still Christians but obviously we have moved away from the fundamental teaching we grew up in. We do not all live together...but the dream of such in our future is certainly very appealing. We are very exclusive and have no interest in open relationships in any fashion. Since we are all straight our dynamic is one where each of us feels as if we have two spouses and a best friend.

I have come to believe that our situation is rare and as such we feel extremely blessed. How often will four people get along so perfectly that two marriages could be blended in such a mutually satisfying fashion? To watch my wife fall in love again has been a thrill for me and a gift I give to her out of love and she feels the same with me. We have always had a great marriage...but these last 5 years have been simply incredible. Ups and downs and hurdles of course...but what relationship does not have those? But we have come to know how much stronger 4 can be when love is present.

Anyway... (long winded I know...LOL)

As I said...really looking forward to getting to know some great poly folks. I hope to get the rest of the family on here but I am the one more accustomed to forums and such so we will have to see.

Gary

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Old 07-18-2012, 05:40 PM
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Welcome! Glad to hear you and your quad are doing great!

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Old 07-18-2012, 06:08 PM
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Thanks GalaGirl. Really appreciate it.

Of course we are definitely still learning and have much to learn. Feels like I have found a great resource for it though.
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Old 07-18-2012, 07:28 PM
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Hi Gary, I am new on here too and have been lurking for a while but this is my first post. Your situation sounds much like mine, married 16 years in a long term committed relationship with another married couple for 7 years, who were good friends also. I havent found too many stories on this site similiar to mine so it was nice to see your post. I have found our quad to be extremely difficult at times but mostly its wonderful. I love my husband and am blessed to have another man to love as well as a best girlfriend whom I share my life with. I hope we can compare experiences! MWB
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Old 07-18-2012, 07:50 PM
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Thrilled to meet you marriedwithbenefits,

Yes the four of us have certainly faced our challenges in our 5 years...but the pluses have far outweighed them. Just like any other good marriage in that respect I suppose. I imagine we have MUCH in common.
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Old 07-19-2012, 01:57 PM
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I bet we do have lots in common- did you and your wife approach the other couple? or the other way around? I am curious how your relationship evolved! I have never had the opportunity to talk about things with anyone!
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