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Old 03-20-2012, 08:12 PM
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I was contacted by a somewhat older gentleman on a poly site, whose profile included this:

I am not trying to change anyones present situation (well maybe a piece of it) but rather to add some REAL excitement to our lives.

I wrote to him and told him that if he was cheating on his wife, he didn't belong on a poly site. He wrote back in a VERY huffy manner, telling me that I was wrong about him and that I had no right to judge anyway.

WTF?

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Old 03-20-2012, 08:18 PM
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Not enough to go on without seeing the whole profile. That sentence you're quoting, by itself without context, doesn't say much to me.
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Old 03-20-2012, 11:42 PM
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If it quacks like a duck surely it's a witch and you should burn it! Burn it! She turned me into a newt! ... It got better...

Anyone get the monty python reference?

Anyway my point is don't assume things.
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Old 03-21-2012, 01:37 AM
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If it quacks like a duck surely it's a witch and you should burn it! Burn it! She turned me into a newt! ... It got better...

Anyone get the monty python reference?

Anyway my point is don't assume things.
<3 Monty Python (and you a little bit for saying that)!!

As for the topic at hand... I don't think you can really tell whether he is cheating or not.
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Old 03-21-2012, 03:19 AM
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I love me some out of context quoting. Why the hell were you assuming he was cheating? Especially as he was on a poly site. Where I assume a lot of poly people would be. What did he say exactly, to make you think he was? If it was just a random remark from you, because you believe everyone who is poly must be cheating, I'd have been a lot less nice than he was.
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Old 03-21-2012, 12:08 PM
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Looking for that spark...
Looking for a discreet friend...
Not looking to change my situation or yours...
Not looking to change my life, just make it more fun...
Looking for drama-free fun...


Cheaters have buzzwords. I should know, I have enough of them hitting on me online despite every online profile I have ever had specifically saying I don't want anything to do with them. It doesn't help, they don't read, and they think that what they want is much more important than what any woman wants anyway.

If a person uses one or more of these buzzwords and has a "discreet" photo (or none at all), I have found that 99 percent of the time, they are cheating on a wife or long-term girlfriend. It doesn't matter if they're on a poly site or on ashleymadison.com. Sometimes, when I ask if they are poly, I get "Sure, I'm poly but my wife doesn't know!"

I may have found the one exception this week in the guy who got huffy with me. No biggie, he wasn't that appealing anyway.
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