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Old 03-05-2012, 03:27 PM
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Default Too long alone brings on the FEVER

Possibly, it's not good to be alone too long. It's been a year and a half, but it could have ended for her even before that. I think she got bored with me. I'm not sure what she thinks. We were too polite to discuss it.

But, it's been at least 18 months alone and I've decided to connect again... with some one, by God, at this point, anyone. Of course, the fever to connect so consumes me that I fear I will make an unwise choice, since my chemistry is surging far ahead of my good sense.

Any votes out there... on either side... chemistry or reason.
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Old 03-05-2012, 04:14 PM
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I have never been able to disconnect the two. The one will always interfere with the other. But that's maybe a girly thing.
The mind. Without an intellectual connection the chemistry is dead in the water for me.
As to suitability, there's always risk isn't there? I have never quite worked out how to do a risk assessment on any relationship and actually, now, I don't feel the need. I cannot consider what will happen ad infinitum, only whether there is a positive connection and potential for mutual pleasure and growth as a person. Hurt, it seems to me, is almost inevitable even when bitter sweet.
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Old 03-05-2012, 04:47 PM
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...with some one, by God, at this point, anyone...
Desperation is rarely an attractive quality.
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Old 03-05-2012, 06:18 PM
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Default Desperation.....

.... may be overstating it. "Unfounded urgency" may be more of the situation. Never the less, the feelings of urgency are there, and I'm fighting it, which is why I'm posting about it.
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Old 03-05-2012, 08:44 PM
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I'd say the feedback from the new women would be an indicator or barometer as to how much chemistry to let loose.

Too much and you could crash and burn the first time out....could set you back mentally. Something to think about.

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Old 03-05-2012, 10:03 PM
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Spring fever? it might take some very calm, cool and collective pacing. Good luck!
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