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Old 02-11-2012, 03:28 AM
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I have recently discussed adding another wife with my current wife and she has asked me what the benefits would be for both her and the other woman. I have explained the obvious but she would like to hear more. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
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Old 02-11-2012, 03:36 AM
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What are the "obvious" benefits you told her??? I wouldn't think anything is particularly obvious, since it depends on the people involved.
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Old 02-11-2012, 03:39 AM
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I have explained having another person to help with the children would be a definate benefit as well as having another adult for conversation. I work 24 hour shifts and am gone every other day.
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Old 02-11-2012, 04:26 AM
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I feel a bit bratty, so I will say that I think in your situation there would be more benefits of having another man around the house than another woman.

Really if my husband was only home every other day, I wouldn't want to have to swap off nights ALWAYS because there was another live in partner (or be forced to share a bed with both of you to get time with you). And if I was not bisexual and didn't happen to be dating this other woman that I'D chosen as a live in partner because she was so awesome, I'd be irritated at spending every other day totally alone sharing all my personal space with my husband's other partner.
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Old 02-11-2012, 04:33 AM
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Guess I should have been more specific about things. They are both bi and we have been having a relationship and sharing the same bed for about 6 months now.
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Old 02-11-2012, 04:38 AM
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Well then I have to say, if she is dating her and doesn't want to marry her/bring her in to live with you full time, then the benefits you could think of such as extra help with child care/house work/24 hour company - probably just aren't enough of a selling point to give up the privacy and independence she can get by having some time to herself in your house.

I think that after dating somebody for 6 months I'd have a pretty good idea if I wanted to live with them or not. I'm not sure somebody could convince me I wanted it with a list of practical reasons if I didn't already want it.
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