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Old 01-17-2012, 02:39 AM
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My wife and I have recently joined the poly community. She is just starting to date other men, and we are looking for your experiences in order to help us decide some agreements. OK, here it is. I have a normal size penis, and we want to know if she is seeing someone with a bigger penis, will it affect her enjoyment of me? She's decided that if that is the case, she will choose her lovers to be of roughly my size. Can anyone share experiences on this?
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Old 01-17-2012, 02:56 AM
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I don't mean to sound snotty...but it almost seems like you might be joking....are you serious?
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Old 01-17-2012, 03:08 AM
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Yes, this is a serious question, thank you for making sure. See, she's been with larger men before, but only monogamously, so she doesn't know what it will be like having two lovers (not at the same time, but within a day or so of each other.)
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Old 01-17-2012, 03:22 AM
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Not to get all grade-school about it, but it's not the size of the equip but how you use it. Plus fingers. Plus tongue. And everything else. Just from my perspective, but I personally wouldn't see it as a problem IF you and your wife have a satisfying sex life. But that's an important IF.
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Old 01-17-2012, 03:43 AM
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okay- well, polyamory is a lot more than the size of a penis. It seems odd that you think of other men simply as a penis, but okay. I guess there is some fear of her finding someone she would rather be with?? Is that what is going on with you??

How would you feel if she meets a guy with a tiny penis, but he shares one of her passions (not sexual) that you don't share and they start spending time together pursuing this mutual passion?

If that makes you uncomfortable, then that could be a sign that you're asking the wrong question.....

just sayin'
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Old 01-17-2012, 03:50 AM
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I don't fear losing her time or attention. I fully trust her love and dedication and passion. I do not know how this medically works though. I know a woman can accommodate many different sizes, but what I want to know is how long does it take in between lovers for her muscles or whatnot to re-contract fully enough that she is just as satisfied by the smaller one as before she was stretched by the larger one.

While I appreciate everyone's hypothetical responses, I really am hoping to tap into this wide experience base. Surely there is someone out there who has experienced this, and can speak directly to it. From their personal experience.
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