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Old 05-06-2009, 05:23 AM
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I've known I was bisexual since i was about 7 and experimented with a friend. I've always found myself extremly attracted to women and even fell in love with my best friend from high school (she was straight). Then i met my now boyfriend. He is the love of my life and i've been nothing but faithful and honest with him. He knew about my bisexuality and I once touched the subject on swinging to him and he was surprisingly receptive. However in talking he decided he didnt' like how swinging is so one-night-standish. I don't have an interest in other men as he satisfies all my needs, but there is just something about the feminine figure and ways of a woman that intrigue me. After some discussing we decided that if we tried out this threesome thing that we wanted it to be serious. We are looking for another girlfriend that would complete us. She would be loved by us both and the same in return. I've joined swinger websites but there doesn't seem to be people looking for the same thing. Somehow i stumbled upon polyamory and realized there was a name for what we were looking for. However there are no local groups so here i am looking and reading and responding.
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Old 05-06-2009, 07:44 AM
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Old 05-07-2009, 09:40 PM
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Old 05-08-2009, 03:03 AM
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good luck with this!
I have noted for quite some time on dating sights, that there are many couples out there looking for a second female. I have no idea if this desire gets fulfilled, but it seems that females in the poly world.... at least here! are few and far between and very sought after.
anyone have any other experience?
If there are any female poly's looking to move and want to move somewhere where they would be in high demand.... Victoria BC canada is the place to be
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Old 05-08-2009, 07:57 PM
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Old 05-10-2009, 02:10 AM
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Old 05-10-2009, 03:43 AM
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AH...the unicorn hunters, seeking the elusive, hot, bi babe to make all their poly dreams come true!

That naivete is kinda cute, actually. The odds of the each of them finding a good match in another partner aren't large ('cause poly folk don't grow on trees) and they think that finding a woman who will match both of them equally is more likely than that. It usually doesn't take long for them to grow out of the unicorn hunting phase.

Usually, the unicorn hunting is a sign that the couple doesn't have realistic expectations.
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Old 05-10-2009, 02:31 PM
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That naivete is kinda cute, actually.
SeventhCrow,

Are you skeptical toward the probability of potentially successful triads, generally, or just toward dyads actively seeking a bi woman partner together?

I ask in part because it is quite possible that I'm participating in an early stage of forming a triad involving three men. That is, we're all mutually attracted to each of the participants. Two of us are long-time open (poly) dyad lovers. The possibility of this going smoothly enough feels very real. It really feels like a very low-drama situation--which, at this point in my life, it must be if it is gonna work for me.

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Old 07-13-2009, 02:49 AM
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Usually, the unicorn hunting is a sign that the couple doesn't have realistic expectations.
I don't consider what i'm looking for an expectation. My fiance and I are perfectly happy together. Its only because i confided in him my intrest in women that he wanted another woman. I'm also not the selfish kind to want two separate relationships i would hope that everyone would be compatible in some aspect at very least on friend terms. After all if I sought another relationship outside my own this would be cheating and I am not about to lower myself to those standards. my question to you had we been searching for a male partner to both share would you feel the same way or is it just the male having two hot women in bed sterotype that caused this bias?
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Old 07-13-2009, 04:06 AM
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AH...the unicorn hunters, seeking the elusive, hot, bi babe to make all their poly dreams come true!

That naivete is kinda cute, actually. The odds of the each of them finding a good match in another partner aren't large ('cause poly folk don't grow on trees) and they think that finding a woman who will match both of them equally is more likely than that. It usually doesn't take long for them to grow out of the unicorn hunting phase.

Usually, the unicorn hunting is a sign that the couple doesn't have realistic expectations.
This is not the first time Ive seen this moderator post something like this to a new person. And I don't blame those people one bit if they do get offended by those uncalled for comments. Who are you to go about telling someone what is "unrealistic"? (and even if it was unrealistic, why would you go through such effort to openly comment and offend anyone who might be looking for that? Wouldnt it be better to just let them seek what they are looking for, and wish them the best, no matter what?)

You know, it's actually beginning to appear that that maybe you just have personal issues on this subject. Weren't successful in your "unicorn hunting" as you call it, and so now you try to discourage everyone else?

Talk about a surefire way to drive people away from your site!
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