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Old 01-12-2012, 12:43 AM
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What do you do when you love someone you CAN'T have a relationship with?

UGH.

Can't as in HIS life doesn't allow for additional relationships and he's married.

Fucking bloody hell. Its not like I can avoid him either
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Old 01-12-2012, 01:51 AM
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Nothing?

Unrequited love I'm pretty familiar with...I could make a career of barking up the wrong tree if someone would just pay me for it!

But yeah...just because you might want a relationship with someone, doesn't mean it would be right for them. Would it be ethical to force anything in such a circumstance?

So I do the only thing I can...carry on.
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Old 01-12-2012, 02:29 AM
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I suppose I know all that already.

Thanks for the reminder. I'll just keep on keeping on... smile and nod and do my best to lock my feelings up when he's around.
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Old 01-12-2012, 03:53 AM
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Does he know how you feel?
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Old 01-12-2012, 05:26 AM
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Does he know how you feel?
Kinda sorta. It's a long story. Today as I got off the phone with him he said "Love you" and I said it back but given our life, I don't know how he meant it...
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Old 01-12-2012, 09:12 AM
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Well then, he loves you, you love him... sounds like you can and do have a relationship with him, but as a friend and not a lover. I don't think it's your love you need to "lock up" -- it's the lust. I find that if I let myself enjoy the friendship for everything it gives me, eventually the lust dies down and isn't as overwhelming, which makes enjoying the attraction much easier and joyful.
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