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Old 01-01-2012, 05:04 AM
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Hey, my names megan and Ive been with my partner Jeff for a few years now. I have discussed the idea of a threesome relationship with him and I realy want to give it a shot but every time we meet a girl, it seems shes interested in both of us at first untill we try to set a date with her, and then she reveals that she is only interested in me. what should we do about this? We want to find someone who may want a serious relationship but they all seem to be acting like they want one just to get to me. Jeff has started to get offended slightly because he feels they are acting interested in both of us just to get to me.
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Old 01-01-2012, 05:09 AM
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Sounds like he right. You need a better screen process.
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Old 01-01-2012, 07:34 AM
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well we look for women who say they are interested in couples and share some things in common with us but once we make contact, they seem to change their mind about being with both of us and just want to be with me. I dont know how to screen out anyone. our profiles on dating sites clearly states thet we come "as a couple so no men or other couples, only single women" and yet we get women talking us up for a while and then at the last minute telling us they only are interested in me.
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Old 01-01-2012, 09:34 AM
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In my opinion it's very, very difficult for a 'third' to meet a couple for whom they share equal connection to both partners. I think it's important to allow each new 'couple' develop their relationship at it's own pace.

How are you meeting these new people? Who is making the initial contact with them and carrying on the conversation with them before you set your dates? If these women are primarily interacting with you, maybe they are just not as comfortable with Jeff as quickly as you and they hesitate at being with him because of it.
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Old 01-01-2012, 03:32 PM
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we are meeting them on dating site and at our local bar and through friends. the both of us are making contact with them
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Old 01-02-2012, 07:55 AM
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maybe try and date separately. Its usually what works better in the long run anyway. A couple usually is a nice fantasy but is daunting and overwhelming in the long run for most.

Do a search for "triad" in the tags to read more about what to expect.
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