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Old 11-23-2011, 08:51 PM
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Ok... Hi all!
I'm new to the forum and I have a question.

I have been doing research on open relationships, polyamory, triads, etc.
and I came to an interesting discovery... there are a lot of men involved in these relationships and women seem to be in the minority.
Now ze questions: does this gender gap actually exist? And if so, I'm concerned that maybe the majority isn't representing the heart of polyamory. (aka the guys are in it for sex and not forming relationships) Am I right to be concerned, or do I need to be enlightened further?

Thanks for any help!
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Old 11-23-2011, 08:54 PM
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I came to an interesting discovery... there are a lot of men involved in these relationships and women seem to be in the minority.
I don't think that is correct at all.
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Old 11-23-2011, 09:01 PM
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Then thx for clarifying... I was a little concerned but clearly my fears were unfounded! I haven't met enough people to say one way or another so I had no clue!
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Old 11-23-2011, 09:35 PM
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Yeah, definitely not true to my observations here or in my city. What made you think that?
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Old 11-23-2011, 09:44 PM
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Well I went to a few meet ups in the San Diego area, and the lack of women was rather striking. I wasn't sure what to think of it, "is it my area?, is this common?" you know the whole list of things your brain comes up with when you're in an uncomfortable situation... "do I look funny?"

Anyway I've been reading through the forums a bit more, and I found that I was quite mistaken but a noobs gotta post what a noobs gotta post.

Again thanks for not being strangers.
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Old 11-24-2011, 12:37 AM
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Ah San Diego, where there are lots of military types. This might contribute to the poly scene there being more dick-laden, if what you experienced was typical. Give it some time, the gender balance may equal itself out. If not, maybe try another city? I know LA is not close but maybe another Southern California town? Or you could decide to try dudes. (I'm being tongue in cheek but, hey, it is an option.)
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:48 AM
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Well I went to a few meet ups in the San Diego area, and the lack of women was rather striking. I wasn't sure what to think of it, "is it my area?, is this common?" you know the whole list of things your brain comes up with when you're in an uncomfortable situation... "do I look funny?"

Anyway I've been reading through the forums a bit more, and I found that I was quite mistaken but a noobs gotta post what a noobs gotta post.

Again thanks for not being strangers.
I find that when I go to poly meetings here that the men definitely out number the women. But when I got to parties hosted by my friends in the poly community, that it's about equal, with nowhere near the gender imbalance that the meetings have. So part of it is probably just the fact it's a meet-up group and men seem to be more active in that type of meeting.
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