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Old 12-16-2009, 12:32 PM
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Default The transgendered in the Poly Community.

Hello everyone!

This is Julia, the other half of Patti.
I am a non-operative transsexual female living fulltime in my chosen gender.
My question is this; In the poly community what do you think the overall poly population thinks of transgendered women but more so transsexual women?
Do we represent the extreme minority?
In the dynamic of a triad, quad would you consider a non-operative bisexual transsexual female a unicorn?
I consider myself one even though I'm married.
Would I be a overall turn off to "straight" men looking for a relationship such as a quad like another married couple?
Just like in other segments of society, transsexual people represent the fringe of the population, the same within the poly world as well?
I appreciate all of your thoughts and opinions.


Julia
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Old 12-16-2009, 02:00 PM
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Well, I guess it depends on how open minded ppl are. Myself, i am genderqueer and pansexual and poly, so your ID poses no problem to me, sister!

Also, so far, I have had one 3way w my tgirl gf and straight but open minded bf. It went very well. My gf is pre-op. I was the hinge of the V. Looking forward to more of these exps, seeing where they lead.
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Old 12-16-2009, 02:41 PM
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From what I have seen in the poly community, it is one of the more open and accepting groups. I think talk of transgender or transsexual may raise a few eyebrows, but poly people tend not to be too judgemental about who another person is with (as long as it is ethical).

I think the poly community tries to be open minded because acceptance of a lot of stuff we believe in usually comes from being open minded. In contract, swingers tend to be less accepting of gay men and transgender/transsexual people.

So I think you will find acceptance in the poly community. But for personal preference for a relationship? I am not sure. Personally, I tend to be attracted to a person overall. So looks, personality, ethics, intelligence, hobbies, etc all affect how attracted I am to that person. So I could be atracted to transsexual/transgender people. But since I have never done something like that before, I am partly guessing.
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Old 12-16-2009, 03:28 PM
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Our local poly community is extremely accepting of everyone in my exprerience. We have several transgender people in various stages of transition. I believe we have one woman who is in fact a post operation "unicorn".

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Old 12-16-2009, 09:00 PM
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Hmmm...a good portion of the poly folk I know locally are genderqueer in some fashion, so I suspect the poly community as a whole is likely to be more accepting and welcoming than the general populace.

As for me, I identify folks by the gender they present, so anybody identifying as female is female, as far as I'm concerned. I've flirted with a couple of trans females, though haven't gotten involved with any as yet, and I'm straight (and I do wonder how sex would work for me were I to get involved with a woman with man bits).

And, oh, you can't qualify as a unicorn because you're not single.
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Old 12-16-2009, 09:14 PM
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And, oh, you can't qualify as a unicorn because you're not single.
I missed that..good call!
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Like Magdlyn I am genderqueer and bi-paratrexual (see www.reneereyes.com for "Paratrexual"). So I would more than welcome a non-op TG in a poly group. I daresay most of my polyamours are transgender now!
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I actually first heard about poly through a trans* person. I would say that a woman, whether trans or cis, non-op, pre-op, or post-op, is whoever she says she is. It's not up to others who you are, just yourself.
And I'm very happy to see such acceptance in the poly community.
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Definitely feel like finding a trans woman is a unicorn. My wife and I have been looking and haven't had much success... and by much success, I mean none at all. Most of the time we've found nothing but women who are purely interested in sex. We're hoping to have a group and I'd love to have a trans woman in it, but that seems highly unlikely at this point.
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Definitely feel like finding a trans woman is a unicorn. My wife and I have been looking and haven't had much success... and by much success, I mean none at all. Most of the time we've found nothing but women who are purely interested in sex. We're hoping to have a group and I'd love to have a trans woman in it, but that seems highly unlikely at this point.
Uhm, what? You're looking to date a trans woman "because" she's trans? Objectifying much?

It's prioritizing her trans identity over her personal identity. Not meeting someone who "happens to be trans" and accepting her for her, but rather meeting someone to fill a role in your relationship as a status symbol.

Gross.
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