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Old 12-09-2009, 09:49 AM
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After discovering that some of us seem to have a background in stripping (or related work), I was wondering exactly how many of us have been involved in the business?

One hand raised here (my wife, not me).
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Old 12-09-2009, 05:11 PM
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I've performed burlesque before, but not stripping. My body type wouldn't be in a heck of a lot of demand in a strip club, though it seems burlesque is a bit more forgiving when it comes to that. I'd love to get back into burlesque when I get back to London.
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Old 12-09-2009, 05:15 PM
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Not I, though I've got a pretty strong interest in burlequse as well... I took some classes before I left NH, haven't taken any in NY yet because I can't afford the extra expense right now even though they're cheap... but I tend to follow the burlesque circuit around here, and have contemplated getting into it.

There's always seemed to me to be some subtle differences in philosophy between stripping and burlesque despite the fact that the two are pretty similiar...
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Old 12-09-2009, 05:59 PM
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I've done a couple strip teases for private parties but not as a professional. Though I did get paid to strip for a passion party
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Old 12-09-2009, 08:25 PM
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never stripped myself, but have worked as a bartender/day manager in a strip club.

as comfortable as i am with my own nudity and sexuality, i dont think i could strip. something about having to be sexy on purpose doesn't make me comfortable. just like you could be a naturally funny person, but wouldn't want someone to shove you up on stage and say "make me laugh".
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Old 12-10-2009, 05:57 AM
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That reminds me of this g/f I had. She was pretty sexy, just naturally. But then she would put on this "trying to be sexy" sort of look/act where she would attempt to have a "smoldering" look and it was just... idk, cheesy and funny and totally NOT sexy at all. lol I never told her that but I always found her more attractive just being natural.

I think there is a difference when you are stripping as well. If you just have fun and enjoy yourself it's way different than if you are thinking hard about how you look and trying to do the sexiest things you can.

This is actually a metaphor/microcosm for life... try too hard and you lose the essence of just *being*
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Old 12-10-2009, 11:12 AM
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Indeed. One thing I love about burlesque is that while it can be very sexy and sensual, you never lose the sense of fun around it. Rarely do you see the smoldering blue ice look. It's also fun because you do take on a character and a persona when performing and that character takes on a bit more weight to your performance. And you never really lose the sense that you're looking at a performance about sexuality.
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Old 12-10-2009, 05:35 PM
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After discovering that some of us seem to have a background in stripping (or related work), I was wondering exactly how many of us have been involved in the business?

One hand raised here (my wife, not me).
Aside from one night many years (and many pounds) ago, I can't say as I've done much stripping.

I did manage an adult/lingerie shop for a while and had many strippers for regular customers. I was probably the only man in the area to walk into the strip clubs and pay attention to what the dancers were wearing. I kept track of shoes, bikinis, lingerie, body glitter--you name it. If I hadn't sold them what they were wearing, I made it a point to chat with them to find out what it'd take to get them in my store so I could sell them what they wore to work.

And my regular customers would come running to chat with me when I showed up. The other men in the bar must have wondered what my Sekrit Power of Attraction was....
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Old 12-10-2009, 10:49 PM
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I stripped when I was 18 for a few months. Of the poly people I know it is more likely to be in sex work (sexual healing, erotic message, pro doms, porn, porn producers) but I really know one other dancer. Lots of people who do burlesque though.
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Old 12-10-2009, 11:16 PM
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I did it for 4 years.
I had a blast.

Like Legion said-it's best if you don't go up "trying to be sexy".
I learned that one accidentally on night one. I was scared to death and asked another girl for advice-she said, "pick a song you REALLY love that just takes you away and go with the song-the rest will follow."
I took her advice and never regretted it.

They had a rule-two song limit unless tips warranted more (because the dj got paid off the dancers tipping them). I always got three songs and on slow nights they'd let me stay up till I absolutely HAD to sit down for a few.

But I didn't get into the "nasty" crap some girls did to make money (opening themselves up THERE, fingering themselves, licking themselves etc).

I focused on strengthening my body while simultaneously enjoying the music-I banked. I only did "table dances" for select people. I was ANAL RETENTIVE that NO ONE and I do mean NO ONE touched me for any reason.

I left two guys unconscious on the floor when they doubted me and tried. For some reasons the dumbasses would wait till you turned your back-with no conscious thought that the back of the stage was a damn mirror. They reached out to grab and I kicked back with one 4 inch heel and left 'em laid out unconscious on the floor. Never did negatively impact my money.

I also was anal retentive about cleanliness which drove some of the other girls nuts. I insisted on cleaning the whole stage, mirror and poles with bleach before I went on stage EVERY single time. They thought it was a waste of time, I didn't care.

I was a "pole monkey" doing handstands and swings and upside down tricks on the pole. Got my arms in kick ass shape (at the time).

No desire to go back to the clubs, but I'd love to have a pole in my house!
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